Post # 1
from the time i met my now fiance i imagined what our wedding would be like. i had so many plans and ideas, but was quickly shut down when i found out how much everything is going to cost.
My fiance and i are young. he is inschool and part of the national guard(used to be active) and we just made a big move to a new house. Everything is so stressful. I want to have a decent wedding at a price we can afford but, now it seems this is not going to happen. In my area the average venue is about $2,000! This just seems outrageous to me. I know my parents are willing to help but not too much.
My biggest worry is just being embarrased on my big day. I feel I would rather wait for the wedding than have a bad one. However everyone is pushing for the wedding to happen sooner than later.
I dont know if im crazy but I always imagined this would be the happiest time in my life, but now I feel on the brink of tears all the time. Does anyone have advice??
Post # 3
@bellaloveskyky: Hi hun, I’m so sorry you are stressing about this so soon! Please believe that it will all be ok and everything will work out. You should plan the wedding YOU want within YOUR budget; everyone who comes will be in attendance to support you and be happy for you. Give them a little more credit! 🙂 You have nothing to be embarrassed about with the ones you love beside you.
A couple suggestions I have done to save major costs:
1. Chosen Date: we are getting married in Nov.–off wedding season in our area. Saved us 50% off venue alone = $1700 OFF! Cateres, etc. sometimes follow the trend too
2. Decor: No real flowers and all of our centerpeices for tables, etc. are things “generic” enough that others will likely be willing to buy them when I put them online after the wedding. For example, Lanterns from Ikea–$8 each and I will resell. Each table has about $15 worth of decor I plan to resell.
3. Flowers—look into real vs. fake. We’re doing real, but only have flowers for the bridal party/parents/grandparents. No flowers in decor.
4. Photographer: Most are anywhere from $2500-$5000 in my area. We found someone who does professional photos on the side (with a GORGEOUS portfolio) for $1000 for the 8 hours on the wedding day, plus free engagement session (and free access to all photo rights from engagement session).
5. Guest List: ‘Nuf said.
Sorry so long, but just wanted to give you some suggestions that has saved us about $7000 when all is said and done. 🙂
Post # 4
@MadTownGirl: wow thank you for the advice! i was already thinking of doing fake flowers. I think I will look into resaleing my things when I am done. I always dreamed of a summer wedding but I think it would be great if we could get a good dicount.
i do have faith in my loved ones but they are an extravagant group. Im not planning what I know they expect and that is ok with me as long as it is something I still like.
again, thank you!
Post # 5
@MadTownGirl: I second this!
Try not to see a low budget as a bad thing, try to look at it as a challange.
Be creative with your venue. For my wedding we booked a county park pavillion. It is a gorgous building, and a lot cheaper than a traditional venue, only $350 (for the whole day!) There was a little more work for us verses having a traditional reception hall venue, but the savings were worth it.
I’ve bought a majority of my decor at thrift stores, and ‘prettied’ them up a little bit. JoAnnes, Micheals and Hobby Lobby all have 40% or 50% coupons, sign up for them and use them!
For flowers we are either getting them from a wholesaler or growing our own.
My photographer is a girl my sister knows who is a recent college graduate. She hasn’t been photographing weddings very long, but I am really happy with her work so far. And she is a great deal cheaper than an established photographer, I have her all day for $1000.
Post # 6
@auggiefrog: where do i get these 40%-50% cupons? do you have a link?
Post # 7
@bellaloveskyky: like hobby lobby on facebook and each week they have a coupon you can you can use at checkout. or buy the sunday paper and there are michael coupons in their ad and hobby lobby coupon in the back of the comics
Post # 8
@bellaloveskyky: you can sign up online on their website (i think?) or at the store and they will send some in your in-box and also JoAnnes sends me a flier every two weeks or so.
Post # 9
Congrats on your engagement 🙂 Don’t be discouraged! I get nervous also when I see what they want to charge for some stuff. I am getting married in October, so I have to agree with Madtowngirl on saving money with an off season date. Everything can be an opportunity for savings- you just need some time (as you will probably be doing a lot of DIY projects and shopping around). My wedding is in 5 months, and I’m working on centerpieces diy.
Don’t stress, and spend where there is no compromise. For me that is the food, and photographer. Those are the two most important things. Everything else, I bargain shopped, DIY and found cheaper alternatives.