Post # 31
I think it would be sweet to do both, minus SIL. Y’all could find out there, just the 2 of y’all, and then have a gender reveal that you plan to tell your friends and family. It’s all about personal preference. If you’ve always envisioned that intimate moment, then have it! Don’t feel bad telling SIL that while you appreciate her kind offer, y’all will be finding out baby’s gender [insert how you want to do it here]. Your kid, your decision
Y’all can find out the gender together and still have a sweet reveal for your family and friends.
Post # 32
We lived across the country from family and friends when I was pregnant with our first. We had the tech write down the gender, and we went home and recorded ourselves opening the envelope. We shared the video with family and friends. It was awesome, and I’m so glad we have our reactions on camera forever.
With our second, we had a small gender reveal with just close family. We had the tech write down the gender and put it in an envelope. We went to babies r us and picked out a boy and a girl onesie and we brought our own gift bag. We asked the checker to look at the gender and then ring us up for the corresponding onsie and put it in the bag while we stepped away. She said she had done this many times, so she knew exactly what we wanted her to do. We had our 2 year old open the bag and pull out the onsie. I’m so happy we did it this way because then our oldest got to be a part of the whole thing. It didn’t feel any less special than finding out on our own. I definitely didn’t want to find out in the ultrasound room because that just seems really impersonal to me.
Post # 33
read up on gender disappointment. It can happen even if you don’t have a stated preference, or don’t think you have one. I had two days of crying off and on after we found out. It was bad and the lowest part of my pregnancy. I am still not ready to tell other people the gender (4 weeks later) because I am still just dealing with it (with my doctors help) and I am not ready for other people to be excited. I would not want to have the break down I did infront of other people.
Post # 34
omg they were wearing team blue shirts and stuff?! poor baby, I hope she never sees that video lol.
Post # 35
The dr gave me a printout so I could wait to see hubby. We actually went to a nice restaurant with views of NYC close to our home and had a nice, romantic dinner when we read it. 🙂
Post # 36
The ultrasound tech told us. Much better than finding out in a room full of people, then dealing with their congrats instead of being able to focus on my own feelings. But that’s just my take… I’m totally an introvert.
Post # 37
Personally i dont get big reveals. I mean it’s either a boy or a girl. It’s not like you’re going to go ‘wow it’s a dinosaur! That was unexpected’.
Each time their own but me and DH will do just us and the radiographer.
Post # 38
I also want it to be just my hubby and I together when we find out. I think we’ll have the tech put the gender in an envelope and we’ll go somewhere special to us and look at it together. I don’t have my anatomy scan date yet (only 11 weeks right now) but if it’s close to Christmas I think it’d be sweet to find out Christmas morning under the tree 😊 But I think I might find out before Christmas time. We’ll see!
Post # 39
I just had my anatomy scan yesterday. Honestly, it would have felt strange to me to have the gender revealed with the tech standing right next to me! He wrote it down for us in an envelope, and a close friends husband is going to get some balloons and put them in a box for us. We are going to open up the box with immediate family next weekend. I know gender disappointment is real and it’s no secret that I want a girl, so I’m preparing myself to have a boy! I will be happy either way, and our families are soooo excited for everyone to find out together.
Post # 40
Get two enevelops (both with the correct gender). Drop one off a bakery to have them do a gender reveal cake for you. After you find out, give the other to your sil and act surprised?
Post # 41
We had the tech put the gender in an envelope and I brought it to a bakery to have a cake made. My immediate family (who were all so excited about the baby) came over for lunch and cake and we all found out together.
For my next, we will definitely be finding out without a reveal. Dh and I both really want a girl and I think we’ll both be a little disappointed initally if its another boy (we’re definitely 2 and thru).
Post # 42
This is why we went team green. (Gender disappointment). I got what I wanted (that sounds very bad) but I needed a lot of time to prepare for the other situation. I am sorry you are going through that too.
Post # 43
We found out at the anatomy scan, with the ultrasound tech. And even if she didn’t tell us it was pretty obvious it was a boy.
Post # 44
We had a gender reveal party, with our family & close friends. It was a lot of fun, everyone seemed excited about it & the reveal itself went really good, I’m glad we did it.. I’ll never forget that moment when the pink confetti flew everywhere.
Post # 45
With our first we wanted to know just the two of us, so we found out during the anatomy scan. With our second, we had the US tech write it down and seal it in an envelope. We had a bakery make a gender reveal cake, and we cut it at a party with family and friends.
DH loves his daughter to pieces (she’s a HUGE daddy girl)… But- while The cake seemed like a great idea, DH was so certain we were having another boy, that he could not hide his disapointment when he saw pink frosting. Disappointment- not shock. It ended up being a terribly embarrassing moment for him. He can’t even watch the video because he feels so guilty about his reaction. Sadly it cant be taken back, and there were way too many witnesses. Just something to think about before doing a public reveal (and honestly not something I ever thought to consider).