(Closed) Discovering baby's gender… question for Bees

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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marriedbeeexpecting :  For us, its why we found out as I knew I would need time to adjust.  I am already at risk for PPD, and gender disappointment at birth can up that, or for some people find at birth can reduce the disappointment.  I knew I had a preference and I wasn’t willing to roll the dice on how I would feel at birth.  

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

For me, I would want to find out with just my husband too.  I think there is something very weird about celebrating a baby’s gender, so the whole gender reveal party doesn’t appeal to me at all.  

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Not pregnant but someday plan to be, and we will find out.

Also a question for the parents on this thread —

Why do you call it a “gender” reveal? You’re finding out the baby’s sex. I know “sex reveal” party isn’t as Pinterest friendly, but sex/gender are not interchangeable terms.

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We did an elective ultrasound at 16 weeks and found out then. It was at one of those just-for-fun places so the lights were off and soft music was playing, and we got teary eyed when we were told it was a girl. 

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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wonderlily :  SO much this.  I am definitely guilty of using the term “gender” when talking about my baby’s sex, but it’s something I’m really trying to break.  Thanks for bringing this up!

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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misspenny2010 :  We were team green but I do have to say, for me, there was no intimacy during the ultrasound. It was very clinical and they can’t tell you if there are issues or anything so for me that would have been the absolute worst time to find out. I wouldn’t want someone to know before me.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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misspenny2010 :  we are currently TTC so no direct experience yet.

i was always team green until I went to a reveal party a few years ago for a good friend of mine. She and her husband cut the cake at the end of the party revealing a thick blue icing. The looks of joy on their faces were priceless and I loved being able to share in their joy. Obviously, they would have been happy regardless. It’s awesome that I am a part of that happy memory and that I have a happy memory of them. So that’s when I decided to have a reveal when we conceive. I want others to share in our excitement and joy. I also want my family and friends to have joyous memories of our little one even before the birth. 

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

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wonderlily :  yess!

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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wonderlily :  I always use “sex,” as I want to be accurate. At our 20 week ultrasound the technician (or maybe the receptionist, I don’t know) wrote “gender” on the image of the baby’s genitals. I was pretty surprised they used that term, to be honest.

Post # 55
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Helper bee

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Misswhowedding :  Understandable. Don’t panic and know you aren’t the only one. It took me almost the entire pregnancy to get over it. By then, I was very uncomfortable and just wanted a healthy baby. It also helped brainstorming all the fun things (activities and events) that the other sex might be interested in. (*not that that is a garuantee, I was a bit of a tom boy myself).

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I personally am not a huge fan of over the top reveals where you invite the whole world. Close family would be okay. We did the dna blood test and got results when I was 11 weeks. The nurse told me on the phone and my DH was home sick with me so I just went straight down and told him. We were both positive it was a boy but she’s a girl. I was so happy but my Husband was in shock for a bit and quite obviously disappointed as he was really wanting a boy. He’s fine with it all now but thank god no one else was around. Your immediate feelings can definitely be seen and neither of us felt that we would react that way so you never know.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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misspenny2010 :  We went for the anatomy scan and as soon as she got him on screen he rolled over and showed us the goods.  It was so incredibly obvious that he was a boy that I actually called him by our boy name.  

Post # 58
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Blushing bee

We did a cell free dna test and the office called me with the results and asked if I wanted to know the sex. I was in my way to work so I called DH and told him. We kept it to ourselves until we revealed we were even pregnant at like 24ish weeks. We were not initially going to tell anyone the sex because we figured if they felt the need to buy us crap they would have to make it neutral.

Quite frankly, I don’t get the point of the reveal parties. They seem pretty self centered and over the top to me. People have babies every day and they are either boys or girls. 

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

During delivery. It was amazing.

Post # 60
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Busy bee

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Cote1590 :  this is what we are going to do. Seems like a super sweet Christmas gift, and one that we can share intimately 💕

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