(Closed) Discussing your bachelor/bachelorette parties with each other?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Did you discuss your bachelor/bachelorette parties with each other?
    Yes, we knew exactly what each other's parties would be like and what happened : (32 votes)
    82 %
    No, we kept each other's parties private and didn't know anything about it : (0 votes)
    Other (please explain) : (7 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    What about knowing a general idea? I am sure some things will change but overall I will have a general idea of what is going to go down.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee

    We have a general idea of what each other are doing. The only rules I gave my FI’s groomsmen who are planning it is that I didn’t want Fiance getting arrested or having any visible scars….haha.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Both of our bachelor/ette parties were surprises so we didn’t know their content before-hand but we both had ideas of what we wanted out of the evening & communicated it with eachother (& our friends). Afterward we told eachother about our days… they were pretty much what we each expected.

    We were on the same page the whole time & we’re both pretty open with one another about everything so it would have been pretty difficult for both of us to keep our evenings a secret.

    Honestly, what is there to keep secret?: If one really doesn’t want the other to know what they’re up to, it’s either cause 1-they’d object to it or 2- there are communication problems in the relationship already. Either way, you’re going to want to sort that out… 

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    i have already spoken to him about this briefly, no strippers for either of us. and i have spoken to his best men about it too, saying they can not take him to a strip club, my Fiance doesn’t like strippers anyway.

    He already knows what I will probably be doing – spa day then a few drinks at home or out

    Post # 6
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    We’ll be discussing it for sure.  *shrug*  I don’t see it as a huge deal.  We’re not secretive, but at the same time, no one’s going to be asking for a play-by-play of the other person’s evening, you know?

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We’ve shared general information, but as JenniferMm said, things can always change.  My Fiance and his friends are going to Vegas (yikes!), so of course I was interested to see what the plans were!  Are there certain things you’re particularly concerned about?  If so, I would ask him!  Just aim to be more casual and conversational about it (versus confrontational)…it might help to open him up a bit.  Good luck! 🙂 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Both of ours are going to be a surprise, so we haven’t been able to discuss anything.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We would discuss it, but not with a sense that the other person needs to approve or be involved in the party, just in the sense of being curious what the other person is up to.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’ll probably know what the other is up to but it’s not like we’re going to control what the other does or doesn’t do.  I don’t care if he goes to a strip club or anything like that and knowing my Maid/Matron of Honor, we’ll probably end up doing something ridiculous and fabulous.  We’re pretty laid back and have no trust issues so it’s just a fun time with friends.

     

    Post # 12
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Both of ours were somewhat of a surprise so there was nothing to discuss beforehand.  After the parties we laughed about what happened.  I went for dinner and a girl’s night out in NYC.  He went to a casino.

    There was nothing to hide really.  Aside from the penis straws/penis cake and such, it wasn’t too different from what we might do for a friend’s birthday or something.

    Post # 13
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We discussed what the plans were beforehand and then shared stories and funny comments / happenings afterwards.  It would be weird for me NOT to share that information with my husband.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    He knows what I’ll be doing, and I’m sure he’ll tell me what he’ll be doing (his groomsmen haven’t planned a party for him yet). We are very open with each other and have a natural curiosity about what the other person does.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We both pretty much knew the jist of each others, but we’re boring so we knew it wouldn’t be too out there.  lol

    We both just had ours and shared everything.

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