- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
My FH and I agree on pretty much everything – we have similar goals and values, and we’ve always seen eye to eye on most things. Except one:
Whether or not to call the cops on your kid if you knew he or she had done something terrible.
I had just finished reading about these two British boys who had been gunned down in a dangerous Florida neighbourhood last week – police believe they had been trying to walk from the bar to the IHOP but took a wrong turn, ending up in a run-down, notoriously violent area. A 16 year old boy was charged with their murders, and there has been no explanation as to why he did it. The boys were unarmed, and police say their money was still in their wallets…
I am of the belief that if I knew my son had murdered those boys, I would call the police on him. It would be too terrible for words to think about those other families who had lost their young sons, having no closure about who actually killed them, or why. Plus, a person who commits murder most definitely deserves punishment for it (I’m not talking accidental death or self-defense, etc.)
My FH, on the other hand, thinks that he’d rather run away with his kid to a remote place in the world (presumably so there’s less of a chance of them getting caught), and make the kid work by building houses a la Habitat For Humanity – he basically thinks that prison never makes things better, only worse, and a person might as well use those 25 years for good, rather than bad. Plus it’s his kid, and he’d rather die than see something bad happen to them.
I argued that it would be an injustice for someone to “get away with murder”, and why couldn’t he place himself in the other famliy’s shoes. He said that he had every expectation that those families would come hunt him down, and that he knows that it’s essentially ‘wrong’ to run away, but it’s still his child, and he’d protect him or her to the ends of the Earth.
I admit, it was kind of amazing to think that he would go to those lengths (in theory), but I still can’t wrap my head around that logic.
What’s your opinion? Would you call the cops on your kid?