Post # 1
I am marrying a non-Catholic, non-Christian. His mother is Jewish but he does not follow any faith. I found online that in order to marry in the Catholic Church, we have to obtain a dispensation from the archbishop, and he must promise that we will raise our children Catholic and will not pull me away from Catholicism. Has anyone gone through this process? Is it difficult to receive a dispensation? How long does it take? What format are the promises in- written or spoken? Thank you.
Post # 2
It’s pretty common. Yes, part of getting married in the Church is committing to raising your kids Catholic – that holds true for any couple. The priest will likely want to meet with you to make sure you’re all on the same page before he approves it. For inter-faith couples, it’s more common to have a half-mass where the Eucharist is not served. Once you’re all squared away with the priest, it’s just a matter of paperwork.
Post # 3
Very common. Usually not a big deal at all. It might take a few months, but so will your precana. your priest will file the paperwork when he meets with you the first time and it’ll all be done before your wedding. Your priest will be able to guide you through everything. He’ll be your best source of information. The internet can’t answer all your questions since there are some things that the priest can influence just based on his preferences.
Post # 4
We were in nearly the exact same situation, I’m not christian and Fiance is catholic. We were concerned about getting married in a catholic church but it’s actually turned out to be pretty simple. We contacted FI’s childhood priest/church and they walked us through the whole process. They didn’t ask us to sign anything, or write any letters (although we are not married yet, so who knows what may pop-up!). They didn’t even require a hard and fast answer on the children issue, just that I am open to the idea of having children and that I am open to the idea of them learning about catholicism. I suggest you get in touch with the church you hope you get married in. Our church answered all of the questions I had and reassured me that this really was an easy process. We also got a bunch of different pamphlets and guides for reading that were good to help me learn some of the lingo. It is good to note though, the ceremony won’t be a full catholic ceremony. Because your Fiance isn’t baptised he won’t be able to fully participate in some of the sacrements. You end up with a shorter version but I was happy with that.
A word of caution, I found a lot of forums and articles while researching a catholic wedding that really freaked me out. A lot of them seem to make mountains out of molehills, so speaking to the people at the church really helped me see how easy this was.