Post # 1
Has anyone had wedding pictures of their family displaid when one couple is divorced? I really want to feature the wedding pictures of my and FI’s grandparents and parents, however my mom and dad are divorced (not remarried). Would it be weird if I put up wedding pictures of them? What if I did individual pictures of them on their wedding day? Would I then need to do that with everyone else?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I thought this was a cute idea and wanted to do it but my parents are going through a divorce and FI’s parents are separated (not legally though). His maternal grandparents are also divorced. Lol, the only happilly married couple are my maternal grandparents. Both of our other sets of grandparents are deceased (and we don’t have any pics of them anyway).
Post # 4
Why would you want to do this if they are divorced?
I think that by doing this it will only highlight the issue that they are divorced.
Post # 5
Are they all going to be attending? I’m displaying my grandparents wedding pictures but 3 out of the 4 of them are deceased…. so even though 1 set was divorced no one will care.
Assuming they will be attending, I still don’t think it should be awkward. You are displaying your family at important milestones in their lives and times they were in LOVE. Weddings are about love. People should be able to be adult about it. I think individual portraits draws more attention to the fact they are now divorced. Obviously everyone knows they were once married, otherwise you and your Fiance would not be where you are now.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
@Holly77: Yup, you were much more succinct than I, lol.
Post # 7
@phishy179: I would not dare do this unless it had the blessing of both of my parents. At least in the case of my divorced parents, it would be a very insensitve thing to do.
Post # 8
I haven’t talked to my parents about this, but everyone gets along and are both remarried (or soon to be), so I don’t think there will be major issues. My plan is to display my parents wedding photo, as well as a photo from each of their re-marriages. I haven’t actually ever met my dad’s fiancee (long story), but to be fair would include them as well.
Basically – I think you should be fine, if your parents get along.
Post # 9
@phishy179: I would ask them how they feel about it.
Post # 10
Why don’t you put a picture of you with each one of them, maybe you’re favorite picture with them when you were little or something. We’re doing that even tho all our parents/grandparents/great grandparents are still married
Post # 11
I actually plan on doing this! My parents are divorced (very acrimonious split) but FI’s parents are still married (going strong and still in love!) Both sets of our grandparents stayed married until death did them part. I want to display all the wedding pictures at the gift table, as a tribute to those who came before us.
Here is how I’m handling my parents’ wedding photos — I’m going to use my mom’s bridal portrait instead of a photo of them together. Mom and I have talked about it, and at first she was hesitant over the idea, but then she said I could use her bridal portrait, once I explained WHY I wanted to have it displayed. My mom was the one who really was invested in the marriage vows and in the marriage, but my dad not so much. I still want to pay tribute to my mom’s dedication to her marriage, because she showed by example that marriage is good and worth the effort to keep it strong and intact. I wish she could have had a happier marriage and that the marriage hadn’t ended, but that was beyond her control. I won’t be displaying a photo of my father from the wedding…and I don’t care if that hurts his feelings or makes him uncomfortable seeing my mom’s bridal portrait. Its my wedding, tough peas.
So to the OP: I think you should go for it! I love the idea of displaying the wedding photos of grandparents and parents! You could display maybe the family portrait from your parents wedding (with both sets of grandparents) or perhaps do separate photos of your parents. At one point, they were married and had YOU, and I think that is a good thing to celebrate.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t, it is just highlighting the fact that they are now divorced… which is not a tone you want running through your wedding.