Post # 1
I’m just curious how the community feels about this. If we ignore your country’s tradition regarding this, do you think the bride or bridesmaid should pay for the dress?
Let’s assume the dress is chosen (or at least heavily influenced by, e.g., X material in X color, or from X store) by the bride.
Post # 2
dabblinggadwall : I think if you are expecting people to pay a lot for a dress, you should at least help.
When I was married the first time, my mom paid for all the bridesmaids dresses and they were not even that expensive.
I am in the southern US too.
Post # 3
I fully believe if you’re dictating what someone wears you buy it. That goes for anything, if you mom wants a cetain wedding dress, she can buy it. If you want you wedding party to look a certain way you can purchase the items necessary. That’s not tradition where I live but I think it’s unfair to ask someone to buy something they wouldn’t have bought otherwise. Just my two cents!
Post # 4
evilqueenkarly : Yeah, I agree totally. I find it really confusing that the tradition remains that the bridesmaid buys her own dress.
headoverboots : Oh man, I bet your bridesmaids appreciated that. I was in a wedding where the bride’s mom did that as well, and it was easily the least stressed I’ve ever been to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 5
dabblinggadwall : you would think, but, the only thing they were asked to buy were dyed shoes (about $20) and half of them did not get that right either.
Post # 6
Your wedding = you should pay for all expenses. Dress, shoes, hair, whatever you expect them to have or do. These costs would not exist if you had not chosen to “honor” them as part of your bridal party.
Post # 7
I agree totally that brides should pay, esp with the new expectations of thousands per bridesmaid dropped on showers and Bach parties.
Pinterest pressure is doing horrible things to brides.
Post # 8
I think the Bridesmaid SHOULD pay for the gown….but I think the Bride SHOULD pick the least expensive option. I think if the Bride chooses an expensive option (which of course is different for everybody), then the Bride should pay.
Post # 9
I picked a color and length. Two of the three women in our wedding wore a dress they already owned. My Maid/Matron of Honor bought a dress she loves for $40 that she’s already worn several times since then. They also didn’t host any parties for me, I didn’t require any shoes, jewelry, or make-up and I paid for thier hair.
I think it’s fine to to make a reasonable request for a dress and not pay for it. If you require a specific dress then I would say the bride should pay for it.
We required our groomsmen to have a specific suit and paid for those.
Post # 10
I think that Canada and the USA should adopt the UK custom of paying for the wedding party attire.
I think w would see an immediate atitude adjustment from brides about what constitiutes an appropriate Bridesmaid or Best Man dress.
Post # 11
julies1949 : This exactly.
The couple should pay for their wedding parties attire. It is their wedding and there would be no need for the attire if the person wasn’t in their wedding.
Post # 12
Where I’m from the bride pays for the dress which I agree is fair. It also means people usually have 2-4 bridesmaids not 7-10!
Post # 13
Okay but what if you just give them a color and tell them to pick whatever they want?
Post # 14
From my experience as a bridesmaid you don’t really wear the dress again and sometimes the dress isn’t necessary your style or the most flattering to your body shape.
Post # 15
Your wedding = you pay.
I’m with you BalletParker :. I’m an Australian bee and the shit I see on here astounds me! Fully catered bridal showers for sixty plus guests. Weekend away bachelorettes that involve airfares/cruises/Vegas/Disneyland et al and the thousands people expect guests/friends to drop on their wedding. Its getting ridiculous! Your getting married which is something that the majority of the population does. You are not being made the Queen of the universe….dial down the expectation! (Especially when you are busy counting your dollars and cents to pay for your wedding)😤