Dissapointed in friends' quarintine behavior

posted 2 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
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Busy bee

I’m with you. People being irresponsible are making this harder and longer for everybody else, in addition to putting the people they have incidental contact with at risk. 

Post # 32
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Honey bee

However, I know this is unpopular during this time, but you can’t control others.  You can stop being friends with this person because of this, but reporting her will not change her.  I’ve found that people have a range of anxiety surrounding this and no matter what, you can’t change that.

 

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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@dogmom91:  This kind of behavior angers me as well, and I doubt that people so foolish and selfish can be convinced to see the error in their ways until someone gets sick. My husband and I try to get out and take walks with our dog when we get a nice day and last time, we passed a backyard party – the driveway was full of cars, music was playing and you could tell that there were quite a few people back there from their loud talking. It was infuriating. We walk by this house all the time and know that it’s a single family and they even have small children. It’s totally irresponsible. As a couple whose fertility treatment got cancelled when this first hit, and we are just now able to pick back up, we’re taking all of the precautions we can and will continue to do so even when our city reopens. We can’t control other people so we just have to focus on doing our best to stay safe. 

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

My husband called his mom to wish her a happy Mother’s Day today and she said she had to go because his sister, husband, and their 3 month were visiting. She said they were outside, 10 feet apart. I could tell my husband was hurt because we did the right thing by not going over with our 5 month old, but his mom brushed us off because the other baby was over. His mom also acts like we have the plague because we’re both working. Both his sister and his husband got laid off and haven’t left the house in 2 months so they all assumed it was fine. My in-laws are also homebodies who regularly go weeks without leaving the home so this is nothing out of the ordinary for them. 
I’m not super concerned or afraid of the virus in a way that cripples me, but I also truly believe everything we’re doing is for the greater good and I have no issues with social distancing or masks or anything. But I also believe that just because you haven’t gone anywhere, that doesn’t mean you’re safe. But whatever. It’s just odd that my in-laws are SOOOOO concerned with my husband and I going to work and yelled at us for driving by their house on Easter, but welcome other family over under the assumption that they truly haven’t gone anywhere 🤷🏻‍♀️ 
As a mental health professional, I understand how difficult this is. Anxiety is on the rise. Abuse is on the rise. Substance use is on the rise. But, I also understand that death can be worse than all of those things. If you’re struggling with being in one place, that’s one thing.  If you’re just going to visit family because it’s a holiday, we’ll you’re not immune from the consequences, or judgement for that matter. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

I had to unfriend a long-time old friend from social media after she was proudly posting herself (and her kids!) sneaking into closed public spaces and hosting family gathering after family gathering specifically to “not give in to tyranny.” How privilieged, it made me sick, I couldn’t stand seeing or hearing about it anymore. I have other friends who are complaining but they are sticking to the restrictions, so eventually I just put them on “mute” on my social medias. 

Post # 37
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Worker bee

Ok. This is fucked. The friend I mentioned who posted pictures of her partying with upwards of 30 people including kids at a river has just posted pictures of her Mother’s Day BBQ. She had her parents and her in-laws over tonight. Both the parents and the in-laws are elderly and immune compromised, she works in a retirement home, and her husband works in a jail. What the actual fuck. I can’t think of a worse scenario. I still won’t say anything though as clearly the ignorance is strong here. 

Post # 38
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Worker bee

I have family completely disregarding social distancing too. I live in California and it’s not allowed to hang out and travel just for entertainment! Some people honestly just think this is either a hoax or they won’t get sick. My family actually said to me (after gathering with people of more then 10) that they are not sick, that no one was sick in their gatherings! How do you even know ? They could have gotten the virus when they filled up gas or went grocery shopping. Some people don’t even show symptoms. I am practicing social distancing and won’t even allow my kids to be near the neighborhood kids or leave the house.  It’s annoying that some people actually don’t care enough for others and ignore the doctors and scientists who say we need social distancing.

Post # 39
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Worker bee

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@muppetbaby:  I would have done the same. People who want this thing over are staying home while others just don’t care. It’s insane 

Post # 41
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Bee Keeper

I don’t get the posters saying to be less judgmental. In this case judge away. Your friend is being a dumbass. And she is violating the order, I’m also in California here. 

She has you a friend in healthcare that she could listen to but instead..she’s being stupid and selfish. I’m over trying to be nice about this. I’m high risk and the stupider people are the more risky it is for people like me. I want to do fun stuff too but I’m being an adult and staying at home being careful not to spread this thing. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think in this crisis people are showing their true colours.

Post # 43
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Honey bee

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@missviolet92:  nah, I disagree.  I think people have always acted this way.  It’s just that their actions are now affecting others moreso than ever, so it might seem that way.  

If I was going to break a rule during my particular state’s stay at home order, I would be smart enough to keep it off of social media.

 

Post # 44
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Helper bee

California citizen here. 

Your friend is being completely selfish here. Totally not okay. Her moving to our country, and not respecting the guidelines infuriates me. I get that we have plenty of long-time residents doing the same thing…but we seriously need less of that going on. 

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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@stella678:  if she works in a retirement home, call and report her immediately to her job. She is endangering lives at her job and being in health care they take this stuff very seriously. Please report her and tell them to look up her violations on her social media. And or send them a screen shot. 

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