Post # 1
I’m engaged!!!!!! Yay!!!!!! Now it’s sleepless nights and tons of excitment!
I have over a year to plan my big day but I’m high strung and like to have everything in order so here is my question.
The church were we’d like to get married is in a rural town (we may or may not be able to use this church as Fiance is Catholic and I am Luthern). All of the reception halls are in a bigger city about an hour away 🙁 I really would like to have a reception location where there is a hotel since i have family coming from two different states.
Fiance and I live smack dab in the middle of each location. So, do i shoot for my dream church and just kinda tell my guests it is what it is (our farm is also in between these locations and this is where we want to do some pictures) or do we try to find a closer church (which may be possible).
Is it unreasonable to ask guests to drive so far?? I have good reason for wanting to have our ceremony at this particular church, however i am also aware due to our different faiths this may not be possible. What are your thoughts??
Post # 3
I tend to be pretty easy going about people doing what feels easiest and best for their wedding day but an hour drive is pretty far between ceremony and reception. I would do it but I wouldn’t be very happy about it
Post # 4
I would try to find something closer. I would hate to “lose” guests between the ceremony and reception because of the drive.
Ours is a 12 minute drive between the church and reception.
Post # 5
IMO, that’s a lot to ask of guests after many of them traveled from out of state to attend the wedding in the first place. Many guests with hectic schedules or who have difficulty traveling would likely choose between going to the ceremony and going to the reception. Even if guests did come, I’d be worried that they might be too tired from the drive to really let loose.
Post # 6
I think that’s too much of a distance. I personally think that anything more than 30 minutes is excessive and should be avoided. When your guests have already traveled a distance, asking them to travel this distance may be inappropriate.
Post # 7
Ours is a 30 minute drive. But we booked a block at a hotel 20 minutes from the church and 10 minutes from the reception hall (we will have a two hour gap between the ceremony and reception). We are also going to provide transportation from the hotel to the reception for anyone who doesn’t want to worry about driving.
Post # 8
Aghhh that was my fear, i kinda feel the same way…..I think Fiance and I need to reconsider a couple of things. It might be our day but I don’t think we can “have it all” and I don’t want the stress of “losing guests”.
Post # 9
I can see/agree with some of the pp’s opinions, if you had a ton of optons to choose from, but when you live in a more rural area, you take what you can get.
My wedding was at a beautiful winery in the country, and was a 45 minute drive to the reception hall. There weren’t many options to choose from for the reception while having my dream venue for the ceremony.
A friend of mine did the same thing, with different venues.
Often times there is a break between the church wedding and reception anyways so is it really that big of a deal? Your hotel is close to the reception and that is most important, that the guests can get to the hotel easily after the reception.
If it is a big issue, think about maybe renting a bus to take guests to the ceremony and back? We had considered it, but in the end I don’t think it was a big deal at all.