Post # 1
My fiance and I have fallen in love with a venue that is about 1.5 hours from where we and our families live. We’re both the first to get married in each of our families, and both mothers are having serious doubts about being able plan our day from that distance. We don’t have a wedding planner, so we’d be doing everything ourselves.
Has anyone had an experience like this? Did it work? Were you able to get everything done? What kind of issues did you run into?
(The venue would let us start decorating at 9, whats the average time it takes to decorate?)
Any input/suggestsions would be very much appericiated.
Allie and Brandon
Post # 2
We are doing this.
our venue is about 1.5 hours away as well. No major problems. I’ve done a lot of phone and FaceTime meetings with vendors though. And a lot of e-transfers. Lol.
We really haven’t had any problems. 1.5 hours isn’t so far that you can’t go there and back in a day. We are going in a few weeks for a menu tasting. We (and our immediate families) are also staying over the day before to prepare. The distance hasn’t been an issue at all. We loved the venue and the area. 🙂
Post # 3
Hmmm… My daughter chose a venue 1.5 hours west of where her family and friends live. That’s because it was 3.5 hours east of where her now husband’s family and friends lived. We thought we’d only have to drive up a couple of times. Instead I think we drove up 6 times, in less than 12 months, and it did get tiresome. Since vendors are usually busy on Saturdays, we had to visit them on weekdays and take off work.
There were a few people who didn’t attend, because they didn’t want to drive the 3-hour round trip in one evening, and didn’t want to spend money to stay overnight. I you have a lot of guests who will be drinking alcohol, they can’t just hire a taxi to get back home, and may not want to stay overnight, due to obligations at home or finances.
Post # 4
I don’t think a 1.5 hour drive is too much for the planning side of things; really you only need to go out there about 5 times or even less during the planning. But I do think it would be a burden for the guests. Driving 3 hours round trip with a wedding in the middle makes for a long day and it will be dangerous if people are drinking. Consider hiring a shuttle back and forth or booking a hotel room block near the venue.
Post # 5
We are also doing this. So far, it hasn’t really been a problem as far as planning goes. We are mostly hiring vendors that are close to the venue to avoid crazy delivery fees. We’ve tried to book multiple appointments in a day when we can to make it worth the drive.
I agree with Horseradish that it is a little inconvenient for our guests. There was a little grumbling on FI’s side at first but I think everyone’s ok now (I hope). We’ve reserved a room block, and some of FI’s family is talking about renting a house for the weekend.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada
No help from a planning perspective but as a guest, I am going to 2 weddings 1.5 hours away from me (and all the other guests too) and I am a little peeved about it. I have to pay extra to go there in gas, and stay in a hotel room (since I do like to partake in some wine). So as a guest, I feel like it’s not the best experience for people. I just don’t get why people want to go 1.5 hours away when there’s hundreds of beautiful venues right near where we live…
But it’s your wedding, do what you want. If people don’t like it, they will just anonymously bitch about it in online forums… like I do. 🙂
Post # 7
But…you could have just not gone, right? A wedding invitation is not a summons. If it’s not an amount of time/money you want to commit, you are well within your right to decline the invitation.
From my perspective, as long as everyting is in the same place (i.e. I am not driving 1.5 hrs to the ceremony and then another 45 minutes to the reception site), and there is lodging available within a reasonable distance, I have absolutely no problem with it. Good opportunity for a little mini weekend away.
Post # 8
Ours is all in the same spot and it’s an evening wedding in August. I’ve driven an hour just between ceremony and reception before so I don’t see the big deal.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2015 - Barn with apple orchard
My venue is 3 hours from where I live, but very few of our guests/family live near us, anyway. We’re calling it a semi-destination wedding, and spending the entire weekend at the venue. Driving there and back in one day was a pain (we did that once so far), but we’ve been able to do almost all our planning from home.
Post # 10
Thank you all for your input, it’s been very reassuring. 🙂