(Closed) Distant BFF (a little long- Input needed!!)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

@dancehalcrasher2:  That is harsh. I have had similar experiences with bridesmaids and the behavior is annoying, however I keep telling myself that I will just get through the wedding and then I do not have to deal with it again. Maid of Honor is different though. You have asked her to serve in a position of highest honor in your wedding and this is how she acts towards you??

I think your excuse of wanting “someone who is physically there for you” would be legit, if you decide to take it that far.

The fall out of asking her to step down would be pretty big, It may ruin the friendship. You would hope she would understand but you have to prepare for the worst if you choose to ask her to step down. Do you see remaining friends with her? Do you have a desire to remain friends with her?  Anohter thing to consider is, how will you feel around her on your wedding day? Maybe it will just be annoying to have her standing right next to you the whole day.

You have only been engaged three months so it’s not like she’s banking on it. I would tell her soon if you tell her.

Maid/Matron of Honor is a big deal and I would honestly expect my Maid/Matron of Honor to at least act like a decent friend, not a cold shoulder. I would not want her to be a rainy cloud over my wedding planning. There are other factors invovled though.

Post # 5
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Parkwood International Golf Course

I think your fiance’s idea is the way to go. I’m sure your friend will understand and that seems like a tactful way to go about it.


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