(Closed) Distress–Teary Eyed and need someone to tell me I just don’t suck….

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@BFF: It sounds like they were all a little bugged that you were replacing a previous planner..like maybe your predicessor got fired and was on good terms with them and they didnt like you based on that fact. I wouldnt worry about it, not everyone can like you..and the ones that dont can shove it. 

Post # 4
3522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I, too, tend to take things very personally and make assumptions when I shouldn’t. What has helped me is to tell myself, “Okay, you get five minutes to feel bad and then you have to make yourself do something else and not think about it for the rest of the day.” Baby steps. Allow yourself to feel awful, let it all out, but then realize that it’s not your fault and try to move on. That’s all you can do. If you’ve gotten great reviews from everyone else, it’s probably that you worked with difficult-to-please people who don’t like many people (if they like anyone at all). Hugs!

Post # 5
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I give you so much credit for staying the course!

In all of our lives and careers we are going to run into those people who just have it out for us and the best thing to do is kill them with kindness-which seems like you have already done.

Don’t take it personally! Try not to let it get you to far down, just brush it off and move on. You have so many other wonderful experiences, that Its worth forgetting about.

Post # 6
3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds like every other planning experience you’ve had has been positive, and this one just didn’t go as well as you wanted it to pan out. Focus on all the amazing weddings you’ve helped make possible rather than this one horrible experience. 

I too am a perfectionist and tend to rake myself over the coals, even when I don’t deserve it. Let yourself cry for a little while, then dust yourself off and keep planning because you know you’re good at it. 🙂

Post # 7
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

before you offer the bride a refund (if there is a next time) i would suggest you email/speak to her and ask her for her constructive thoughts on your performance  – she may have been thrilled with your work but now you might have backed yourself into a corner to provide a refund

i cant imagine what the venues problem was, especially the photographer, but maybe its a closed door to the newbie thing – if the bride gives you permission can you use the photos?

Post # 9
1543 posts
Bumble bee

Eff them. Who wants the approval of snotty, holier than thou ppl, anyway? Right? Right. 

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