(Closed) Ditching wedding traditions?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: What wedding traditions are you incorporating?
    bouquet toss : (25 votes)
    16 %
    garter toss : (22 votes)
    14 %
    assigned seating : (34 votes)
    21 %
    immediate departure for honeymoon : (5 votes)
    3 %
    matching bridesmaids : (22 votes)
    14 %
    big bridal party : (19 votes)
    12 %
    wedding favorst : (31 votes)
    19 %
    throwing rice : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    1428 posts
    Bumble bee

    We’re not doing a bouquet or garter toss. We will have assigned seating as it’s the norm in our group. Also, a small wedding party, and non-matching Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, I’m having my BM’s pick their own so I know they love them and can hopefully wear them again.

    Post # 4
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I guess we’re ditching a lot of traditions because the only thing in the poll that we’re doing is assigned seating (and even there, we’re most likely only doing assigned tables).  I’m personally not comfortable trying to figure out where to sit in open seating, and much prefer assigned tables, so that’s the route we’re going!

    Post # 5
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    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    The only thing that we’re doing in the poll is matching bridesmaids. Because I have a large network of great girlfriends, I’ve asked my close gals to wear purple to the wedding–any shade they’d like–just as a way of singling them out for how important they’ve been to me.

    I’m giving my bouquet to my mom because she’s getting married next year and I don’t plan on wearing a garter.

    We did away with assigned seating because we’re doing a cocktail reception. Our engagement party was like this–friends and family and everyone who’s coming knows someone. People might break off into little groups–which is cool, but we want to encourage mingling. I throw big parties every year and this has never been a problem. We also did away with the DJ/Emcee–I don’t like DJs being Emcees or having an Emcee that doesn’t know us–so we’ve asked some of our special friends to do the announcing.

    Post # 6
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Actually we’re pretty much doing all of them except for rice throwing. We’re leaving on Monday morning for our Honeymoon. Pretty "immediate" if you ask me. We have 6 attendants on each side, assigned seating, a bouquet/garter toss, and favors. I’m sort of a stickler for "doing things right" and I’m relatively conventional when it comes to stuff like this, which drives my Fiance nuts because he says it’s me being uptight. It’s part of how I was raised though….I don’t go against the grain very much so why now?  I love everyonme else’s creative wedding ideas that are non-traditional….but they aren’t for me and it would be weird if something too untraditional popped up at my wedding.

    Post # 7
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    41 posts
    Newbee

    You need a box for none ๐Ÿ˜‰ Unless bridesmaids all in different colored dresses, but the same bouquets counts as matching!

    Post # 8
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    368 posts
    Helper bee

    I am ditching them all lol

    Post # 9
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    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    Wow, I only picked two of those!  Didn’t realize how many traditions I was shunning!  Having a small wedding really changes things!

    Post # 10
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    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Ugh, my mother is driving me crazy about the bouquet toss. She says people will be expecting it. Freaking stupid that I’d have to get a ‘stunt bouquet’ for this. uber lame & I’m not doing it

    Post # 11
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    484 posts
    Helper bee

    The only ones in your poll I am NOT ditching are assigned seating and favors. I’m kind of a control freak and want to know where everyone is going to be. With the favors, I am mostly doing them so I can do another project – oh, i guess and to give my guests a little something to say "thanks for coming to Hawaii to watch me get hitched" (but mostly for the project!) I cannot cannot cannot do the garter and bouquet stuff – no way am I chucking those gorgeous flowers and noone needs to see my thigh at my wedding!

    Post # 12
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    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    The only stuff we’re keeping is assigned seating and a big wedding party. 

    Post # 13
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    426 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We are also ditching most traditions.  Just assigned seating – to avoid confussion and I think guest sometimes prefer this. – i know I do

    Post # 14
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    405 posts
    Helper bee

    The only thing we DIDN’T ditch was favors! ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m not wearing white, he’s not wearing a suit, we’re not getting married in a church, we’re not having a bouquet/garter toss, we’re not having our guests throw rice (they are blowing bubbles though), we’re not doing assigned seating (just assigned tables), we’re not taking a honeymoon, we’re not having a bridal party at all so the bridesmaids aren’t matching. Our wedding is a representation of us so that’s all I’m concerned about! ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 15
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    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I saw that yahoo clip too. We’re not doing assign seating or Immediate departure (we’re leaving two days after our wedding). As far as the matching bridesmaids. I don’t know about that. I’m thinking about just telling them to find something they like and give them the color to go by.  And a budget price; my dad insists on buying all five dresses (that’s including mine!) so I’m going to make it as easy as possible.

    But it’s one of those "Its your wedding. Do it how you want to" type deals. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    i always wonder about immediate departures – i mean, the best parties happen AFTER the wedding half the time! why would you wanna miss that? Unless you have been waiting to do it until your wedding night, I can’t think of why you’d jet off so quickly. 

    I think assigned seating or at least tables is a great idea – i feel awkward w/out a plan at weddings.  They’re too formal almost to have a little chaos like that, unless you’re just doing appetizers or dessert bars etc.  Especially if I don’t know a lot of people, or don’t have a date present.  We also have a big wedding party – the more the merrier! but they can wear whatever they want or for the guys, my fiance bought their stuff as a gift so they didn’t have to spend big bucks renting a used tux or lug along a suit etc.

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