(Closed) Dividing up MOH tasks between two

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I would speak with both Maid/Matron of Honor seperately.  Give them a chance to let you know what they expect and what they would like to do for you.  Dont promise them anything.  They sit with your SO or even by yourself decide what you need from your MOHs.  Then why not meet with both them for brunch, bring your ideas incorporating their expectations and put together a game plan.  This will help keep all of you on board.

My BMs are from all over so I brought them together in NYC to go dress shopping.  Together we went to see my wedding dress (the sample) and then we went dress shopping.  This allowed the girls to get to know each other and for me to express subtly what I needed from them.  Afterwards I treated them all to lunch.  It was really nice, and when they meet up again for the rehearsal they will already know each other.

Post # 4
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

Do you think they wouldn’t get along?  I’m wondering if the one friend who’s married would be well suited for planning the shower, while the single friend would be better at planning the bach party.  Maybe the outgoing one can give the speech, and the more introverted one can be the one next to you at the ceremony, fixing your dress etc. 

Post # 5
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5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would suggest you all meet up for lunch or something to talk about the wedding.  See what kinds of jobs they would for sure like to help you with instead of you just assuming they would want to do certain things.  That way, it’s all laid out on the table, everyone is clear on who is doing what, then they can meet and you can see how it goes between them.  Maybe they can at least exchange e-mails/phone numbers to e-mail and text each other about stuff.  They won’t necessarily end up best friends, but hopefully they can peacefully work together.  Good luck and let us know what you end up doing!

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