YES and NO
Thinking about it as a possibility is truly normal.
BUT you have to have faith / trust in your relationship that the two of you will work together to stay on the same page… communication is the key
Marriage is hard… no two ways about it (I was married the first time for over 20 years)
And even good healthy Marriages have their challenges
Life WILL send curve balls your way (stuff you cannot predict or prepare for)
No matter how you try to “insulate” your relationship SH!T can and does happen that will sometimes send it to an edge, that you have to find a way back from, so as not to topple over to your the Relationship’s Death.
People lose their jobs – a House Burns down – Someone gets ill – a Relative Dies – there is a Family Tragedy… etc
Any of these will put immense pressure on a relationship, and this is the stuff you don’t necessarily have a game plan to deal with
Versus… say a Couple’s stance on some of the bigger more common elements to Divorce…
Adultry – Addiction – Abuse – Amoral / Immoral Behaviour… even Apathy
Those most people have a plan of action to keep at bay such as:
Relationship Boundaries – Respect for Each Other – their Faith – Their Morals & Ethics etc
Hope this helps,
PS… At my age, I am over 50, and Mr TTR is over 60, I don’t have any fears about Divorce in our relationship (we are very strong together as a couple, and both us thought long and hard BEFORE we began to date, get engaged, married as we were both Divorcées and didn’t want to ever go thru that H#LL again, we wanted to bullet proof our relationship as much as possible). MY Fears now lie with the stuff we cannot control and how that effects our Relationship… ie Our Kids’ Financial Situations – My Elderly Parent’s Health and enventual Death – and even our own Deaths. At our age these things are always in the background… especially the latter. I worry a lot about our Health and Longevity. Sadly.
The trick tho for a successful Marriage is to make EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.COUNT. Make it as good as you possibly can FOR THE OTHER PERSON (not yourself). Give more than 50/50… give at least 100% of you… cause in the bad days, you will need more than 50% in to perhaps carry the relationship when the other person cannot give their share.
(( HUGS ))