Divorce is on the horizon

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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xo_mrsbear :  11 months in and he was cheating since before the wedding? Yes, that is grounds for annulment. I would really try to go that route first. If it doesn’t pan out, then divorce, but life will probably be easier if you can get an annulment. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee

Lots of good advice from other bees I just wanted to say I’m sorry you’re having to go through this and he’s beyond an ass. *hugs*

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Just chiming in to reiterate;

It’s. Not. Your. Fault.

Sending you lots of love and positivity Bee.

Post # 19
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Helper bee

I’m so sorry. My heart is breaking for you and you deserve so much better. 

Post # 20
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Newbee

so sad! what an ass! Well at least you did an elopement and didn’t waste a bunch of money marrying this guy!

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

im so sorry what a disgusting prick.. I cant imagine how much it hurts now but it WILL get better and you will find something amazing and loyal like you deserve

This is not your fault this is on him.

P.s i creeped your wedding post and I just want to say your absolutely drop dead gorgeous.. screw that loser

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and appalled by his actions. Who does that? You’re gorgeous and will find someone who treats you right, bee!

Please get tested and take care of yourself. I hope your friends and family rally around you and you can lean on them for support. Therapy could also be part of that self-care if you’re in a dark place.

Post # 25
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Busy bee

I am so sorry to hear this!!! <<hugs>> OMG. I remember all your wedding posts. I feel like I was there with you. So I am taking this personally a lot. 

Remember one thing, because I too have ‘been there, done that’ where I happily reported my wedding plans on this site, and then it didn’t work out 5 years later, with a baby!

So that one thing is that whatever needs to be taken care of in reference to divorce, moving out, property issues, etc… do it ASAP. Don’t wait to try to ‘take time out’, etc. The time out feels like a breather in the short run, but in the long run, you will feel exhausted for nothing.

Cut your losses as soon as possible so that your true healing can begin. I made the mistake of NOT doing that, and I am suffering even now after nearly 2 years. Still going through the courtroom drama and such. Ugh!

Post # 27
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Busy bee

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xo_mrsbear :  Glad to hear that it will all be over in about 100 days. And even more happy to hear that gratefully you guys do not have kids yet, and as a bonus… no property issues either.

I wish you all the best and I hope you continue to stay on the bee. 

We are here to talk about it when you are ready.

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