(Closed) Divorce?? :( Please I need Advice.

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
162 posts
Blushing bee

@BeachBlossom:  None of this is okay. You need to leave ASAP but figure out a plan to do so without him knowing your whereabouts. He seems to be a dangerous man and has threatened your life. Do not take this lightly. Find a safe house that he doesn’t know about, don’t tell anyone that will tell him where you are and GO!!

Post # 4
2755 posts
Sugar bee

“He’s such a good guy” is incongruent with “he choked me out.”

Leave, now.

Post # 5
3942 posts
Honey bee

@BeachBlossom:  I dont want to hurt him, He is a good guy

No, he is not. He is a monster and you need to leave.

Post # 6
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

So sorry you are being treated this way.You deserve better..Get a restraining order and divorce him.Take your time in your next relationship…

Post # 7
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Get out now. Nothing about this “he left me messages telling me he was  going to kill me and slit my throat” is okay. Having worked with a foundation who looked after women in domestic violence situations, I can tell you now… these are not always empty threats. Many of these women think that it can’t happen to them, and sadly, many of them are not alive to tell their story or help others today.

Seriously. Get out. Ditch your phone. Get your things and leave ASAP. Find a safe place, whether taht’s with family, or a safe house, friends etc. None of this is okay, and I honestly worry that he may hurt you, or worse.

Leave, leave, leave please. PLEASE.


Post # 8
5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

He is not a good guy. Pack a bag and go stay with friends/family.

Post # 9
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Violence and abuse is never okay, no matter how much you might love him. There are better men out there, he is controlling and dangerous. Please seek help from a shelter, family, or police.

Post # 10
4434 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I commented on your other post…

Post # 11
6 posts

Honey, listen to those who have come before this comment I am about to post.  You need to leave, go to your courts and file a protective order and give the history and hopefully they will understand.  Although I haven’t been in an abusive relationship, however, my exboyfriend (after being told multiple times to not text me) keep doing it and that is harassment and although he had a protective order filed against him 3 years ago from his wife (legally seperated still), I over looked it and gave him the benefit of the doubt because he had NEVER displayed any harassment characteristics until now that in the past almost a year I had been dealing with it.  WHEN YOU GET TIRED YOU WILL DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO.  The question is WHEN WILL YOU GET TIRED?  I am praying that in this situation, you will do what’s right and to protect yourself and change cellular service providers ASAP and take the necessary security measures you need to. God Bless!

Post # 12
4940 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would have walked the moment he put his hands on me. Period.

Post # 13
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@BeachBlossom:  HE IS NOT A NICE GUY!!!  Nice guys do not choke you out or throw things at you.  Nice guys do not threaten to kill you when you do not answer your phone.  Nice guys do not upload a GPS tracking device to your cell phone.  Nice guys do not move you hours away from your family to isolate you from them and then freak out when you go to visit your family.

Not salvageable.  You will always worry whether he will snap and kill you.  His behavior is totally unacceptable and you need to get out now.  Toss your GPS tracked phone and find support from friends and family to keep this guy away from you immediately.  Worry about filing for a divorce later.  This type of behavior does not get better, it gets worse and worse until somebody is injured or gets killed so the faster you get out the better your outcome will likely be.

Post # 14
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012


This is ABUSE. This is never ok. No man should ever put his hands on you. Pack you shit and run before that man kills you.

Seriously. If you need help please PM me. 

Post # 15
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would not tell him you are leaving as from what you have said it sounds like he could potentially lose his temper with dangerous consequences.

I would leave, get a different phone, get help by whoever you can, and salvage your life. You deserve a better one, and definitely deserve to be treated good. I was in an abusive relationship and still had feelings of guilt or, I didn’t want to hurt him – but you need to put yourself first. Leave and don’t ever look back.

Post # 16
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Pack a bag and leave as soon as you can.  Put your phone in the mail and send it to any address in Alaska (to throw him off) and get a new phone and never personally contact him again.  If you don’t have friends/family to help you then contact an organization for battered women.  You need to get away from him immediately because no mentally healthy, rational person behaves like him. 

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