(Closed) Divorce?? :( Please I need Advice.

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
6111 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is a classic abusers case!  He reels you in quickly, you move in quickly, you get married quickly – and then he starts abusing you!

BeachBlossom this was a HUGE mistake marrying this man and letting him into your life.  He is an abusive man and it will ONLY GET WORSE.  Look what he’s doing to his supposed newlywedded wife when things are supposed to be lovely peaceful and calm?

You are going through the classic cycle of abuse.  Things get tense, he blows up, he apologizes, things go back to normal. RINSE RECYCLE REPEAT.  It will happen again. 


he got a GPS on my phone through sprint, ETC;And then he came to FL on Sunday, to get me. C, to work things out. Since then everything has been perfect;he has been the man I knew back in march.

Don’t be fooled!  Things are not better.  The man you knew in March you didn’t even know.  The man he is showing you lately IS the man he IS – BAD MAN!!!!!

What part of you thinks that this is actually OK to have a man do this to you?  Have the other men you were with sent you to the hospital from beating you up for you to think this guy is actually an improvement?  Has he helped you when no one else did so therefore you owe something to him?

As soon as he did his first physical offense on you (choking), this immediately negates ALL AND ANY GOOD that he has ever done.  No good man hurts another woman like this.

You really need to get an annulment or get divorced.  There is nothing to be salvaged with a man that operates like this. 


I have a feeling that you won’t leave though.


Get this book at the library:

Why does he do that?  Inside the minds of angry and controlling men

by Lundy Bancroft.


If you wait one year – to see if things get better – it will be so much harder to leave then.  You’ll have had so many more “incidents,” he’ll have beat down your soul even more, you’ll be very stuck.


NOW is the best tie to leave.  Get a protection order, get a new phone, go move in with family.

Post # 18
6111 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

BeachBlossom what is going through your mind after reading all of these replies? 

Are you on a safe computer?  Does he know how to look up your internet history?

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