Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
I was scanning MSN this morning and I stumble upon an article about rings… Divorce Rings!
http://thelook.today.com/_news/2011/09/02/7571320-will-divorce-rings-catch-on?gt1=43001
“Using rings as a symbol of marital status can be traced back to ancient times, long before anything other than “death doing you part” was an option. In the modern era, there are three marital statuses: single, married, and divorced. If the whole thing started with a ring, why shouldn’t it end with one?”
I understand divorce parties to celebrate a new chapter of ones’ life, but divorce rings? What do you ladies think?
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
I think this is crazy on SO many levels… and I know first hand about starting that new chapter.
I do agree that at some point after the seperation there’s that new start, okay I can do this, I’m a new woman kinda thing BUT when the divorce is actually happening?.. NO WAY.
It kinda reminds of the the short story “The Story of an Hour”… totally inappropriate feelings to be having within the circumstance happening.
I just don’t understand how someone could “celebrate” that happening. =/
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I think it’s weird. Engagement and wedding rings signify commitment. What does a divorce ring signify? The end of a commitment? That seems a strange thing to commemorate with jewelry, especially in the shape of a broken heart. I could see getting a statement piece to mark the start of something new, your strength and independence in moving on, confidence and hope in the future. But none of those are represented by broken hearts. Any why in the world would you want to go around advertising “I come with baggage” to strangers, like the article suggests? Sure you should discuss these things when you start new relationships again after a divorce, but you don’t need to shout them on the first date (or even before you exchange names).
Post # 5
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Honey bee
I can see throwing a party, I can even see a trip away.
BUT A RING?!?!?!?!?!?! WTH????? Just take OFF your e-ring and wedding band and go bare-fingered!
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
Is it black with skulls? or engraved with “I will not sink to your level”
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I think the ring would stir up conversation, more than quietly alerting people that the marraige has ended. Totally hilarious
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
@mwitter80: No, but it does have a stake being driven through a heart, lol
Post # 9
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Helper bee
i was under the impression that divorce is expensive enough as is, without adding a ring into the mix.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
@Aure: Maybe you can trade in that diamond e-ring and wedding band for THIS ring? LOL!
Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
I know a few girs who went and bought right hand rings when they divorced. They were so sad and it seemed to cheer them up, so I was like “Meh! Whatever”
Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
@Aure: I feel like if my ex was going to wear a divorce ring it would look more like this
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
@Zinzerena: Yeah, maybe that’s what they do? Rather than sell them?
@Mrs. DG: I think it depends on the intention. Buying something, like a new ring or pair of shoes, to cheer yourself up seem different than a “divorce ring.”
@mwitter80: LOL
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
If I were to get divorced, I would most likely buy a flashy right hand or even left hand ring that clearly isn’t an e-ring or wedding band. I think it’s kind of shocking to look at a woman over 30 and see a totally bare hand, so this kidn of softens the blow so to speak. But I wouldn’t get a broken heart, I personally think that’s kind of strange.
Post # 15
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Honey bee
Whatever makes you feel better, I guess.
Post # 16
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Helper bee
I clicked yes without reading the article. :/ I didn’t realize what types of rings they were (like the one pictured with the stake into the heart). My aunt, after her very painful divorce, (which followed a very painful marriage), bought herself a beautiful ring to wear on her left ring finger to symbolize her freedom and her intention to never marry again. She said her finger felt naked and strange after wearing her wedding set for more than 30 years, so this worked for her.
It was that sort of thing I had in mind, which to me is awesome! These divorce things I find a little more questionable – it seems like it is less about your new life and more about the divorce itself. If I had read the question and the article more carefully, I would have chosen “other” – if it works for you, who am I to judge, but it does seem a little angry.
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