- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Well Fiance and I come from totally different family backgrounds…
Divorce was such a foreign concept to me before I met my Fiance. My parents weren’t happy and they fought all the time but they still stayed together – actually I wished they would divorce. Actually I really didn’t know many people who were divorced when i was younger. So I really don’t know what its like. I’m the youngest of 5 girls and the 4th one to get married – so weddings and marriages were just a part of my life for a long time.
His parents have been divorced for about 15 years. He’s the oldest of 3 boys. He has never been able to forgive his mother for splitting up the family (Which i mean its true – she did cheat) His mother then married that other guy. So naturally his dad despises his step dad with a passion. My Fiance was the only one of his brothers who was old enough to see, hear and understand everything that was going on. So it really hit him the hardest. (If you ask me – they would have gotten divorced anyway – from the stories i hear anyway but I wasn’t the one who grew up with it) Now for the first time in 15 years – those families are coming together at our wedding. He’s the oldest and none of his friends are married so he’s never even been to a wedding.
As far as I was thinking – we just sit them on opposite sides and make them suck it up and behave. Their oldest son is getting married. But when it comes to involving grooms parents it gets wierd for him because he hasn’t seen them together in years (actually once 3 years ago when his little brother broke his knee and was in the hospital. They both came – and other then his dad refusing to go anywhere his step dad was gonna be – they got along okay.) Ofcourse the step dad will be at the wedding.
We were discussing whether or not he should get a picture with him (or us) and his mom and dad. He said he said it cus he wanted it but then he heard it come out of his mouth and his thought was “WHAT NOOOO” He’s torn and really doesn’t know what he wants. Part of him wants it the other part says it would just be fake. So I was wondering what everyone did about that as well.
How did bringing the two families together work? Did you have to make some allowances. What pictures did you take or not take, etc.