Post # 1
I’m divorced and my ex is in the ICU here i am 70 some odd days till i say i do to the one i truly love. My ex and i had a great friendship that went to far and we never should have been together this being said we do have 2 children 5y and 3y. Im torn should i push back my wedding because the fact is he is most likely not going to make it or should i just keep my same date and everything? I dont want to seem cold i care so much about my ex in a nonromantic way but what to do is so cloudy if he passes i dont want my kids to think bad of me when they look back and see how close to their dads death i remarried.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@kimjmom: When did he go into the ICU? If this just happened I think wait it out until you have more information.
Are several of your guests going to be effected by his death for 60+ days after his funeral?
If you don’t care what people think ignore this, but it might come off as you care about him more than you do by postponing your wedding due to his death.
Post # 4
@kimjmom: I think that maybe the distraction might be good for your kids. When my dad passed family functions kept us going – something you have to wake up for and work on and attend. A wedding day could be a lovely relief from grief if the worst happened but if it is too overwhelming for you than I would say postpone. There really is no right or wrong in this tragic circumstance. So sorry about it, and goodluck to you.
Post # 5
@Flanders: +1. Gotta have a reason to get up in the morning and feel somewhat normal… or even better, celebrate. So sorry you’re going through this, though… prayers for you & the kids :0X
Post # 6
@kimjmom: what’s wrong with him? What’s his prognosis?
Post # 7
I wouldn’t move it. My older brother passed away 2 weeks before my younger brother’s wedding and he didn’t move it. It was honestly too late to move it and they wanted to have a celebration. It was a great distraction for us all.
Post # 8
@kimjmom: I’m sorry to hear that especially for your kids, how awful 🙁
My ex and I are on amicable terms, dont always like each other lol, but we keep a united front in front of our kids (8 of them ages 18.5 to 4) we were married for 17 years, I still care about him so I can understand how you must feel.
In My Humble Opinion no I don’t think you should cancel or postpone, I think you should stick with your plan and just trust that it will all work out for the best. *hugs*
Post # 9
I lost my dad when I was 3 and my mom when I was 10. The BEST thing you can do for kids in that situation is get them back into a normal routine and that should include your wedding. I really encourage you to move forward with it.
It will be a positive diversion for them if the worst happens. I am so sorry this is happening.