(Closed) Divorced (father of my children in ICU)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@kimjmom:  When did he go into the ICU?  If this just happened I think wait it out until you have more information.

 

Are several of your guests going to be effected by his death for 60+ days after his funeral?

 

If you don’t care what people think ignore this, but it might come off as you care about him more than you do by postponing your wedding due to his death.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@kimjmom:  I think that maybe the distraction might be good for your kids. When my dad passed family functions kept us going – something you have to wake up for and work on and attend. A wedding day could be a lovely relief from grief if the worst happened but if it is too overwhelming for you than I would say postpone. There really is no right or wrong in this tragic circumstance. So sorry about it, and goodluck to you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Flanders:  +1. Gotta have a reason to get up in the morning and feel somewhat normal… or even better, celebrate. So sorry you’re going through this, though… prayers for you & the kids :0X

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@kimjmom:  what’s wrong with him? What’s his prognosis?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t move it.  My older brother passed away 2 weeks before my younger brother’s wedding and he didn’t move it.  It was honestly too late to move it and they wanted to have a celebration.  It was a great distraction for us all. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kimjmom:  I’m sorry to hear that especially for your kids, how awful 🙁

 

My ex and I are on amicable terms, dont always like each other lol, but we keep a united front in front of our kids (8 of them ages 18.5 to 4) we were married for 17 years, I still care about him so I can understand how you must feel.

 

In My Humble Opinion no I don’t think you should cancel or postpone, I think you should stick with your plan and just trust that it will all work out for the best. *hugs*

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I lost my dad when I was 3 and my mom when I was 10.  The BEST thing you can do for kids in that situation is get them back into a normal routine and that should include your wedding.  I really encourage you to move forward with it.

It will be a positive diversion for them if the worst happens.  I am so sorry this is happening.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

opps double post

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