(Closed) Divorced parents?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would definitely invite SO’s.  You could also invite the parent without an SO to bring a guest.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@marylandgirl:  I honestly don’t feel it’s fair for one parent to dictate whether the other parent gets to bring a SO.  They’re divorced – it’s none of the other parents’ business.  They each get to bring a guest – if one decides not to bring a guest, so be it, but they shouldn’t get to choose whether the other parent has a guest.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with @milesbella.  Generally, parents should be allowed to bring a guest to their child’s rehearsal dinner.

However, I can see an exception if the divorce was very recent (or not yet final) and one parent had cheated on the other and wanted to bring the person he/she had cheated with as his/her date.  I think in that case, perhaps that parent should use a bit of discretion and come alone to the rehearsal dinner, as it is usually a small, intimate affair. But if that parent insists on bringing their date, I’m not sure you can really refuse.  And, if the cheating parent then marries his/her cheating partner, that cheating partner becomes the parent’s spouse and the bride or groom’s stepparent and really can’t not be invited…even if it is painful for the first spouse.

But other than that, I think the parents should suck it up and put their feelings aside for their child.  Once you divorce, you really have no say in who your spouse dates.  And it is unfair to ask a parent to not bring their significant other just because the other parent doesn’t like the fact that they are invovled with someone else.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would invite their SO’s because it usually would make them more comfortable to have someone there that’s there “for them.”  I would also encourage the other to bring a friend 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Invite them all!   You don’t want to exclude anyone in a situation like this.  They, then, can decide if they are coming are not to the extras.   My guess is that they will.

My mom HATES my stepmom (dad had the affair with her) and they all got along, avoiding each other a bit, and there was no drama.  To not invite a partner, especially out of towners, would be a big faux pas.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I say invite the one that is serious and if you dont think the other parent wants their SO there then address their invite as their name and guest. 

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