(Closed) Dinner

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my opinion, SOs (especially if they’re serious) should definitely be invited to everything the parents are invited to. It would be pretty sad to make Dad’s girlfriend/partner/companion sit alone in the hotel during the rehearsal dinner or not get to attend the wedding at all.

Post # 4
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wait? Did you change the question? I thought I was answering a question on whether divorced parents’ SOs should be invited to the wedding and rehearsal dinner.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The rehearsal dinner is typically hosted by the groom’s parents.  This day and age, that isn’t always the case and it’s hosted by whomever wants to host it/who can afford to pay for it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@marylandgirl:  Rehearsal dinners are typically anyone in the wedding party, along with their spouse, significant others and dates.  Some people extend the rehearsal dinner to all out of town guests as well.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@marylandgirl: You can follow the “rule” of only those involved in the wedding and their SO’s are invited to the rehearsal dinner.

We are inviting everyone, but that is because we are having a destination wedding and everyone is traveling.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Maybe if you post the actual circumstances of your situation, we can help with more personalized answers.  Based on this post and your other post, I’m gathering that your parent or FI’s parent is upset about their ex’s desire to bring their SO.  If you provide more details (how long they’ve been together, who is paying for what, etc.) we may be able to give you ideas of how to approach the parent that is creating the problem.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would say whoever is paying for it determines the guest list.  However, as the bride and groom you can decide not to accept someone’s offer to host if you don’t want to abide by their stipulations.  Yet another reason I am happy we are hosting our own RD/Wedding. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@marylandgirl: If they are each paying half and Future Father-In-Law is coming from out of town with his SO of 2 years, then yes he should be able to bring her.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

100%, absolutely your FI’s father should be able to bring his SO.  Hands down.

Not sure how long they’ve been divorced or the circumstances regarding the divorce, but I think it’s time for Future Mother-In-Law to move on and be an adult (if for no other reason, to make her son’s wedding/reception dinner stressless).

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