(Closed) Divorced Parents and Wedding

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The hanging up on your fiance and not being able to listen to other opinions is totally lame and I would also be upset. 

One piece of advice…consider using a more neutral site.  Keep it small like you want, but just somewhere that is not just your “mom’s”.  I get the turf thing.  My mom is remarried and in a better financial position than my dad and he does not like going to her house, understandably.

So my advice, compromise on the church. Do not compromise on the size/scope of the wedding.

Good luck working this it out!  It totally sucks when you just want to be excited and family is difficult!

Post # 4
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow, I feel like I wrote this…lol.  If you’re like me, its so hard to be able to say what you need to your dad without him changing it or throwing it back at you.  I just started planning my wedding and am already having family issues between my mom and dad and their sig others.  Like you they have been divorced enough years in my mind but they both feel the need to show each other up.  I asked several people for advice.  The best advice I got is that with multiple family members you are not going to please everyone.  And your dad is wrong…its not about making your family comfortable.  This is YOUR day…YYYOOOUUURRR day!!!! It’s the only day that you actually get to pull that card and people have to listen! LoL.  And if your dad doesn’t agree, then shame on him.  He obviously go remarried while you were around, did you have any say in his wedding? No?? didn’t think so…

I also think he needs to apologize to your fiance.  Hanging up on him (unless your fiance was loud or inappropriate) was unacceptable.  I feel your pain girlfriend!  Hope it gets easier.

By The Way…how are you handling dad/stepdad issues?  Are you having them both walk you down the aisle??

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