Post # 1
I am very lucky in many ways that my parents are still married. I am finding out in planning the wedding yet one more bonus.
What are you girls doing when the groom has a mother (duh-lol) and a step-mother. My FH I think consider the step-mother more as his dads wife than an actual mother. They got married after he was out of the house.
I don’t know the politics of divorce. I don’t want to step on anyones toes. I personally would like the groom, his brother, and his parents in a picture together with out the new wife. Is that rude? I don’t want Future Mother-In-Law to think I am putting her on the same “level” as the step. But I don’t want to piss off Future Father-In-Law by asking his wife to step aside.
Post # 3
It depends on a lot, but I would not ever ask anyone to step out of a picture. The best you can safely do is the following:
-a picture with the mom and her sons
-a picture with the dad, his wife, and the sons
-a picture with the mom, the dad, his wife, and the sons
Do not attempt a pic with the mom, the dad, and the 2 sons unless the dad’s wife offers to step out.
I have been to many weddings where one or both sets of parents are divorced, including my own. It has never been ok to ask a step-parent to step out of a picture.
Post # 4
Here is what many brides do, a family photo with MOM and Dad and a photo with DAD and WIFE. When doing group photos with all included, DAD and WIFE stand next to each other on one side of the group and MOM stands on the other side. if you don’t include the new wife the dad will get upset and so will the new wife. Afterall, she is part of the family now.
Post # 6
My parents are divorced, and I had two sets of family photos taken, once with my mom and dad, and one with my dad and stepmom. It took a little longer, but was less stressful for me in the long run.