Post # 1
Ok, my parents divorced about 14 years ago and my mother remarried 12 years ago to another woman. I love my stepmom and couldn’t be happier for my mother, I’ve always considered her part of my family and supported their choices. My parents haven’t spoken in all these years and as I was talking about the wedding with my Moms they brought up some worries about the wedding being awkward (there was a lot of family drama when my Mom got remarried-hardly anyone supported her, etc). I really want a picture with my Mom and Dad, one with both my moms, and one with all of us. My mother said it would be strange and awkward and not right if there was a picture with her, my dad, and I. Am I wrong to want these pictures? How did pictures workout with all you other bees with divorced parents? Is anyone else facing this same dilemma? What do you think?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
@Jenny7568: My mother said it would be strange and awkward and not right if there was a picture with her, my dad, and I.
This is just my personal opinion, but I agree (except for the “not right” part – more about it being awkard). I have 3 dads (bio, adoptive & step) b/c my mom remarried multiple times, and kept the middle one long enough for him to adopt/raise me. I would never make my bio dad and my mom take a pic with me because it would be awkward for ME. They are not married. They did not raise me jointly. They are both remarried. If YOU feel comfortable doing it, I think they could set aside their feelings, but considering they have been apart for 14 years, it seems like it would be an awkward pic for you as well. How old were you when they split? Did you keep a close relationship with your dad?
Ulitimately I think you could ask them to do it for you, and if they are both uncomfortable, maybe a pic with them on either side of you, with their spouses on either side of them?
Post # 4
Tell your family to suck it up and behave for one day. That being said, I would also try to keep them as apart as possible. Get the pictures and then separate them fast!
I’m facing a situation like this. My FI’s parents divorced with he was very young. His mum soon after married his stepdad, who basically raised him as a son. Then, about 8 years ago, his mum and stepdad divorced. His stepdad is now married again (to a women who is not much older than my FI). His mum has a boyfriend, and his dad has a girlfriend. So I’ll have three couples to keep apart at my wedding!
Post # 5
I’m actually very close to my Dad, as he is the one who raised my siblings and I after the divorce (when I was 12). I’m still close to my Mom, but I’m totally a Daddy’s girl! I’m thinking if they can atleast do a photo with my moms on one side of me and my dad on the other (he never remarried), then my step mom won’t feel left out and it won’t be as awkward? as you sugguested. I guess I hadn’t thought of the awkwardness for me, knowing it would be awkward for them. Good Point.
Post # 6
I would certainly tell them that I would like this one picture of my Dad and my Mom together. I am a firm believer that divorced parents need to suck it up and behave on the occasion of their child’s wedding.