(Closed) Divorced parents…who is introduced first?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 1
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My parents are divorced and are both remarried. They have met each other’s new spouses and are pretty civil when they are at the same events.

Are parents usually introduced at the reception, before the bridal party and bride and groom? If so, who do I have introduced first, my dad & stepmom, or mom & stepdad? I thougth I’d have my dad first, since the dad is the traditional “host”, but my mom requested that she be introduced first.

Ugh, divorce!

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Ladies/moms are generally introduced first.  So mom and stepdad, then dad and stepmom.

Post # 4
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5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We didn’t introduce parents, this is foreign to me. I don’t think I’ve ever even seen parents be formally introduced at a wedding.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m not sure what the formal protocol is, but I would just introduce mom and stepdad first, since your mom seems to be sensitive about it. Guys don’t tend to read too far into these things, so I doubt your dad would even care if she’s introduced before him.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

When it comes to social events that are Hosted… the Man may be paying… but the Woman is ALWAYS the Host.

Your Mother is the Guest with Highest Distinction at your Wedding… followed by the Mother of the Groom.

(Also the order in which they should be sat in the Church at the Wedding… Moms last… first his, then yours… then the Processional begins)

Which order for your situation depends on what is to happen next…

If it is during the Speaches portion… your Mother should be introduced first… then your Dad who would then carry on with his Speach (usually he’d open with something nice about his Wife / Mother of his children… but in a Divorce situation that may be pushing it)

If it is just introductions… then it should go:

From most distant to closest…

So Bridal Party, Parents, B&G

His Parents (Dad – Mom) and then Your Parents (Dad – Mom)

If someone is divorced then the order stays the same… so in this case Your Dad & Wife, then Your Mom & Husband

Then you guys.

If you put GodParents or GrandParents into the mix… they come before each respective Parent

So… Groom’s GodParents – GrandParents – Parents

Bride’s GodParents – GrandParents – Parents

I suggest that you explain to your Mom that she is the Most Honoured Guest in the room, (top dog, gets top billing) and so she will always be the last introduced before you the Bride & Groom…

If you explain that element to her and WHY she may more readily buy into the concept.

She is the cat’s meow on your Wedding Day for sure !!

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@pinotgrigio:  My parents were not introduced by the DJ, however, I did list their names on my invitation. I put my mom and step dad first and then my dad and stepmom.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@pinotgrigio:  I don’t know about this indroductions, BUT, I would introduce mother first since it is important to her. Your father most likely don’t care if he goes second hehe.

I’d avoid conflict in this minor issues.

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