(Closed) Divorced less than 1 yr neighbors..should they get +1s?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

First of all, no one is supposed to get a +1; dates are to be invited by name and issued their own invitation. So as for your mom and etiquette, she’s completely wrong. The only time a date must be invited is if the coupld is married or engaged or lives together.

Maybe you can reach a compromise with your mother and invite them without dates but allow them to bring one if they ask, which hopefully they will have the tact not to do.

Post # 4
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Thats a bit of a tough call. I think I would invite them both but not with a plus 1 as they are only divorced 1 year and one or other of them may not exactly be over the split. 

Post # 6
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would treat them like you are treating any other single guests. 

Post # 8
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If you are inviting both of them, then no, I would not include a plus +. You can tell your Mom that Emily Post, etiquette guru, says-

“Now, you might wonder if there are times when a guest should in fact have a plus one. Brides and grooms should be aware that spouses, fiancé(e)s and live-in romantic partners (no matter the sex) must be invited with your guests; boyfriends and girlfriends who don’t reside together don’t need to be.”

No Significant other? No plus one required.

Post # 9
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Do NOT invite them with +1s…  in your example, the ex- husband cheated on his wife… I can see this blowing up into a knock down drag out fight between the 2 (a la the Jerry Springer show).

Invite them as single guests and with seperate invites.

Post # 10
4350 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We gave plus ones to everyone except for those who are recently separated (including my parents), divorced, or widowed. Unless we know who they are dating. We figured it would be mean to remind them of the end of a recent relationship. And that might cause problems between them if they see the other person with a date.

Post # 11
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

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@mrsSonthebeach:  I disagee, I’ve certainly but ‘& Guest’ on invites for those not in a serious relationship. 


Depends on how you are handling +1’s for other guests I suppose. If you think it will casue drama, skip the guests. 

Post # 12
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m agreeing with the majority on this, a +1 is okay not to give to them. Its also okay if you want to ignore the entire situation by not inviting them!

I hope everything works out and this is the worst scenario you have to deal with, happy wedding planning! 🙂 


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