Post # 1
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161 posts
Blushing bee
I’ll try hard to keep it clear and unconfused —
My parents are divorced. My mom is remarried. My dad is not. The fiance’s parents (thank god) are still together.
Everyone is helping to pay for the wedding, so we want to include everyone’s names on the invitation. What is the best way to word it that is not totally wack o doodle?
this is one suggestion:
Mr. and Mrs. Davey Jones (my mom and step dad)
and Mr. Jim Morrison (dad)
invite you to join them
in a celebration of love
as their daughter, Katie Morrison
is united in marriage to
Mr. George Harrison
son of Mr. and Mrs. Frank Harrison
on Saturday, the sixth of June
two thousand and eight
at five o’clock in the evening
St. Michael’s Church
Neverneverland, Illinois
I find the first two lines confusing, because obviously mom and step dad don’t share my last name. Is it against the rules to list my dad first? Any other suggestions how to maybe slip my collective parents names in later? Have some other opening line? Also, does the above insinuate that my fiance’s parents are not paying? ugh… I’m not terribly concerned about keeping to ettiquette rules. Also the word "united" bugs me.
The broken home is not all "extra presents at christmas" let me tell you.
Post # 3
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51 posts
Worker bee
we just said ‘together with our parents’ since we collectively have six with six different last names (way too confusing). no one was offended in the least.
Post # 4
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296 posts
Helper bee
That was going to be my suggestion too. I’ve always seen it stated as "together with their parents". It’s clean, simple and non-confusing. If you want to highlight everyone individually, you might want to think about doing it in the program. You could do a short bio type thing or just list all the family and write a thank you in the back. That would let everyone know that all the parents contributed. Good luck!
Post # 5
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Newbee
I agree with everyone else, for your situation the "together with our parents" bit would probably be the easiest. Both of our parents are still together and helped pay for the wedding so we’re doing more of a "french fold" style (I think that’s what it’s called) where the names are listed side by side in 2 mini columns before mine and his names. e.g.
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Mr. and Mrs. Tom and Mary
Doe Smith
r equest the honor of your presence…
(no idea if the formatting will actually work here, but that’s the gist) You could probably do something similar to this if you absolutely wanted everyone’s names on the invite…
good luck!
Post # 6
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161 posts
Blushing bee
thanks everyone! I’ll pass the "together with their parents" by them, but I don’t think it’ll fly. we shall see.