Post # 1
I was on here 5 months ago…my husband left me after 4 months of marriage. Long story short hes in the military and promised me if we eloped he would take the extra pay we got and use it so we could have a big beautiful wedding….all lies. Its been 5 months now, and I moved out but still beyond heartbroken. I keep asking him to serve me papers and he wont. I tried to do the right thing and get back together to fix our marriage…he told me he would think about it but after a week said he fell out of love with me a week after we got married.
Now I find out he has a girlfriend and has for THREE months! HE still wont serve me papers either. My best friend says I can sue. Can I really? And on what grounds. This is so heart breaking. I loved him and he lied to me over and over. What can I do?
Post # 3
Why won’t you serve him the divorce papers?
Post # 5
Because I dont want this…but if he does I want it over with…There is nothing legal I can do?
Post # 6
I’m very sorry this has happened to you.
You asked what you can do – you can file for divorce. What’s stopping you?
Post # 7
I think you should serve him papers before you sue, otherwise, the suit would look ridiculous.
Post # 8
You can file for divorce. He doesnt have to serve you anything. You serve him and move on with your life. It’s clear he doesnt want to be with you or he would not have a girlfriend of 3 months. I could guarantee that he has probably been seeing her for a lot longer than that and only married you to get the extra military pay.
What a scum bag.
Post # 9
@navywifenmoore: Serve him divorce papers. I am sorry that he has done this too you. But it sounds like he is done. You cannot make him want to be back with you. And since he won’t serve you, you have no choice but to serve him.
Post # 10
Serve him first. It is unfortunate, but clearly the relationship is over. It is best to move on and start fresh. Now you can find someone who loves you and treats you how you deserve to be treated.
Post # 11
@navywifenmoore: you can actually get an anulment what state are you in?
I would claim fraud. What state are you from? Where did you get Married?
Post # 12
First off, I am so sorry *hugs*.
I know hat your saying HE wants this he should be the one dealing with all of this. BUT let’s be hoenst that’s not going to happen so serve him the papers so you can move on.
Is it too late for annulment?
Post # 13
@bbfyso: Were from and got married in maryland.
@dressedinlovexo: I think it is too late 🙁 I tried to get an annullment but we dont have the right grounds to get one apparently.
Thank you everyone for the advice.
Post # 14
If you got married in Maryland, I don’t think you’re eligable for an annulment if these rules are up to date and truthful.
I would serve him with papers and be done with it. You absolutely can serve him — it does not need to be him.
Post # 15
@navywifenmoore: you should just file for divorce and serve him with the papers. he obviously has moved on, so should you.
Post # 16
@Hyperventilate: I think it applies as fraud. He married her under false pretenses. They dont livr together anymore.
@navywifenmoore: can you PM with a little more information? I can help you a bit. I am pretty sure I can help you get an annulment or divorce. but I need more information.