(Closed) Divorce…Who walks me down the aisle?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: who should walk me down the aisle?
    Just my mom even though it will really hurt my fathers feeling : (7 votes)
    33 %
    My dad since this is the tradition : (2 votes)
    10 %
    Both however drama may occur : (6 votes)
    29 %
    alone to avoid drama and hurt feelings : (6 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1774 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Honu:  I sort of know how you feel! No wedding in my immediate future, but I don’t think I would let my dad give me away. My dad is a nice guy! He isn’t a very good parent though. I would have my mom walk me, but he would be shattered.

    I think, when the time comes, I will walk alone. I’m an adult. I moved out of mom’s house years ago. 

    If you want mom next to you, do that. Both wouldn’t be a bad choice either. It isn’t like she would really have to talk to him anyway.

    Post # 4
    Member
    46326 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You could have your Dad walk you halfway down the aisle where he would hand you over to your  Mom who would be waiting at that point. She would walk you the rest of the way to the altar.

    Post # 5
    Member
    349 posts
    Helper bee

    I will be walking my daughter down the aisle.  If her father was still alive and for some reason she wanted to include him (unlikely) I would be gracious about it and not ruin her day.  I hope your parents can both realize it’s all about celebrating you and your marriage that day, not rehashing their personal differences.  Good luck!

    Post # 6
    Member
    539 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Honu:  do you think it would mean a lot to your mom? If it would mean a lot to her to be asked to walk you down th aisle, then I think she should. She earned it by being in your life. On  the other hand, she might not really care. She would probably appreciate you talking with her and telling her how much she means to you, but some people aren’t all that big on symbolism and such, and she might not care it it means so much more to your father than your mother.

    Post # 7
    Member
    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I know she wants minimal contact, but it’s not like she needs to spend hours practicing alone with him how to walk you down the aisle. Just explains to her that it means a lot to you that both your parents walk you and she will understand. She is a parent after all and is used to sharing you with him 🙂 I would ask her and gauge her reaction… worst comes to worst, have him pass you off to her halfway down. Best case senario? Walk with both of them 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My mom walked me down the aisle.  They split when I was 2 and my relationship with my father has always been strained.  Screw tradition.

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