(Closed) Friend divorcing after a few months….WWYD?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Return the money and any gift that is unopened. 

Post # 4
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would return it too. My Darling Husband and I have a mutual friend and they also got divorced with in 6 months. I dont get it. 

Post # 5
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you have to return it – that’s too soon to keep things. But it’d be awkward with things like small appliances – I got married in July as well and my coffee maker and microwave are well used. 

Good luck. 

Post # 6
4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Return them.

Post # 7
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unopened and uncashed checks, return

Those that are opened or cashed, I would write another card explaining in a generic way that the marriage was short lived and she would like to return the gift, however it has been used/cashed would they still like them back?

As a friend I wouldnt take anything back, but I would like the though behind the question. I especially would not want money that has been spent or an item that has been used. 

I expect she would find most people tell her to keep it.

Post # 8
986 posts
Busy bee

Definitely return the gifts.

Post # 10
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It certainly puts her in an “uncomfortable situation”… and it isn’t going to get any easier any time soon…

As ThreeMeers: has posted, the correct procedure Etiquette wise is to contact those who gave her a gift (no matter what it was… including MONEY… whether it came as Cash, Cheque or Gift-Certificate) and offer to return it be it used or un-used.  Then it is up to the gift-giver in how they choose to procede.



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