(Closed) DIY Brides and Day of Coordinator

posted 5 years ago in DIY
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Day of Coordinator is vital! SUPER thankful I had mine. I had a “chief of staff” bridesmaid, who knew the rundown of everything, but at the end of it, she was still my bridesmaid and busy with photos, etc. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

If you have an entirely DIY venue I would highly suggest a DOC.  I also would not ask/expect one of my friends to family to do this, they should be there as a guest, not to work.  Hire a professional.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I had a DIY venue and tons of DIY projects (including all of our florals) and my DOC was a lifesaver. Get one!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

My venue sounds super similar! I am hiring a day of coordinator I originally thought that I would have my aunt do it since shes not involved in any other aspect of the wedding and she throws big parties and everything all the time. In the end I would just rather have a professional so we budgeted for one. I wouldn’t have a bridesmaid or anyone who is involved in the wedding corrdinating anything becauase you are going to want them with you to get ready and all of that and it’s not fair to ask them to work on the wedding day and be ready for all their other tasks. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Would love to hear more input on this. Im doing the same thing as you and I feel like Im going to need one too. I defffffffiiintely do NOT want a single person askign me where something is or where something goes or where so and so is. 

For my friends wedding which was at a park- I dont know if she coordinated it or if the lady just sort of took charge- but the lady who did her flowers since she was setting up the tables before and as guests arrived she kind of came over to us and started directing everyone down the aisle. Shes a close family friend of both of ours and I think since she did the flowers it made it seem natural for her to do that part since she wasnt sitting down anyway. Although she wasnt with us during getting ready and in that time as the Maid/Matron of Honor i just looked for ways to help out. 

With all of that said. I totally feel you. I dont want to hire someone. After looking it up its like a thousand dollars. but at the same time if its someone I know its gotta be someone I wouldnt feel bad about giving a job. I go both ways I mean would someone feel honored and generous to want to help or would they feel offended and want to be pampered at the wedding? I guess it depends on the type of person you ask. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Mine will be $1200 it’s a lot but I just took the money from other things liek decorations since the venue luckily stands along pretty well and i hate flowers so were doing very simple things. Some places work with day of coordinators and include them which is nice but other places like our venues don’t. You coud ask the venue and see if they have preferred vendors for coordinators. We get meetings beforehand to figure out where everything goes and what I want. She gets there early and stays super late and will organize everything for me and she willbring decorations she has for free if I find stuff she has that I like. In the end for me and my piece of mind it was just worth it for me to pay for one. If you do have a friend or family member help with this you definitely need to purchase a nice gift for them as this will be a lot of work. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I do NOT have the budget for that…and my wedding is completely DIY also. So, for the ceremony & seating people (like an usher), I’m thinking of having one/some of the groomsman there to guide people where to sit, since they don’t have anything else to do. At the reception, one of my MOHs will be doing that duty. She was more than happy when I asked if she would be like the “host” and kind of make sure things go according to plan and she will be announcing everything when it is time. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Our venue provides a day of coordinator. I didn’t really think we needed one then we had our planning meeting with her last week and now I’m SO glad she’s going to be there to help make sure everything goes correctly. There’s no way asking a friend/family member would really be the same as a having a professional who knows what they are doing because there are so many little details to think about! If you can find it in your budget I would absolutely suggest it!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My venue comes with a day of coordinator. I loved the venue itself, but having a coordinator included really sold it for me!! There is no way I would put that responsibility on a guest or member of the bridal party, nor do I think I would even trust them to do the job without getting distracted!

For an extra $250, our coordinator is setting up everything and doing all the decorating for us. As I’m doing lots of DIY and not hiring a florist, I think this extra fee is well worth the money for us!! She’s super organized and on top of things. I’ll be able to just sit back and realx the day of without any worry. Totally worth it 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m a DIY bride and I just hired a day of coordinator. I wouldn’t have though if it wasn’t so cheap. I’m a little hesitant about it since I want everything to be as perfect as can be but having her there is going to help soooooo much!! 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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ucsadie: A lot of them were just little things like arranging for some of the hors d’oeuvres from our cocktail hour to brought out to us while we are taking pictures so we get to eat something. Arranging for catering staff to make sure we get food first so we have a chance to eat and having them carry our plates for us so we don’t have to worry about spilling! She’ll be in charge of arranging for tables to be dismissed for dinner. She said this works better than having the DJ do it because she’ll have a better idea of what’s going on in the kitchen than the DJ will so she can make sure it flows more smoothly. She also has all the contact info for our other vendors (florist, DJ, photographer, transportation, etc) so if they are late she can call and figure that out without having to bother me and stress me out 🙂 She’ll also help me bustle my dress after the reception.

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