Post # 1
Last night the FI decided that he wanted to make our wedding cake. I don’t really like cake that much, but I feel like we need to have cake-cutting as part of our reception. The FI very much likes cakes, though, and he LOVES baking. When he told me of his idea, I thought it would be a great personal touch to our wedding.
We will be having dessert as part of our buffet package, so this won’t actually be eaten by anyone but us. Just a cute little cake to cut.
This is what he came up with! Fondant ruffles and everything.
I was pretty impressed, but of course I love everything he does. 🙂 He called his oldest sister on Skype to show her, and she immediately cautioned us on the idea. She got married last summer and is full of advice for us. She said he would be way too stressed before the wedding to do a cake. But… this took him just a couple of hours, cost us about $50, and I know he would practice to make it look even better.
What do you ladies think? Is it a bad idea to let the groom do something like this? I know he wants to be helpful, and it’s something he loves doing.
Post # 3
I think it’s a bad idea to make something for the reception and not have enough for all guests to enjoy. Perhaps he could make a larger version for your rehearsal dinner (assuming there will be fewer people there) or a small fancy cake for just the two of you to enjoy. It’s just kind of cold to have a pretty, fancy cake and make a big deal of cutting it in front of everyone, then point them to the dessert buffet that doesn’t have any of what they watched you cut.
Post # 4
If he can do that on the spur of the moment in a couple of hours, he can certainly make your wedding cake.
It is not uncommon for couples to have a small cake for cutting and either not serve cake at all or have a sheet cake for serving.
Post # 5
Just a couple thoughts – make sure you can bring in your own outside cake and check about the cutting and serving fees. Ours was $2 a person if we did out of house (we chose in house anyways). He can make it ahead of time and freeze the cakes, then decorate the morning of. Give yourselves plenty of time! I love that he wants to help and do this for you, so sweet. I think it’s a great cost savings and his practice cake looks nice. Looks like he has lots of time to pick a design and perfect it by then.
Post # 6
@whitemochi622: Sounds like it could be a major stresser for him that day. I would try to do it, but have a back-up bakery on speed dial just in case!
Post # 7
@whitemochi622: It’s one cake, with a design that your FI seems pretty familiar with, I think it’ll be super easy. To be honest, I wouldn’t be worried about it at all.
Post # 8
I would say it depends on how much he has to do that day and the night before. How involved is he in the other prep? Also I’ve heard stories about grooms who lazily wake up, shower (maybe), shave (sort of) and have a beer or two before deciding to head off. If he has the time, why not? I would be more concerned if it was you, who would be more likely to have a crazy list of things to do, like hair and makeup and whatnot.
Post # 9
It’s odd that so many people are warning about the time crunch… but on other places, I see people complaning about how much free time their FI had on the wedding day! I know my man is already planning to kick back and relax before the day really gets busy. 🙂
Maybe your FI wants to be a part of the wedding day scramble! 😛
I think freezing the cake ahead of time and decorating it the day before/day of is a lovely idea.
And, OH MY WORD can you man decorate a cake, or what???
Post # 10
I think it’s a wonderful idea and it’s so sweet that he’s so excited about it and even practising! 🙂
Don’t shoot him down just because your FSIL don’t think it’s doable, she was probably just talking from her own perspective.
Post # 11
What a great idea! Looks like he’s very talented- lucky you!! Post pics of the cake at the wedding!
Post # 12
@CakeyP: We’re still really early on in the planning process, so I don’t know how busy he’ll be. I think he sees all the planning and possible DIY things me and my mom will be doing, and you’re right–he may want to be part of the busyness, too! He loves being creative (you should see the romantic dates he’s taken me on!), and maybe this is a sign that he wants to be involved more.
Thanks for the advice, everyone! I’m new to the boards, but I think this is a great, NEUTRAL place to ask for opinions!