Post # 1
I spent ALL day modifying my Aunt’s veil for my wedding (Taking off the 1980s headband, tea dying it, and then hot fixing crystals around the edge). My mom comes home, glances at it for a split second and goes “hmm…” and walks away. When I ask what she thought, she just said she didn’t think the colour was right, and walked away.
Seroiusly, it would be less frustrating if she didn’t volunteer me to DIY EVERYTHING for the wedding, if she actually helped me with ANYTHING, and if she actually gave me some good feedback. Even on the stuff she likes, all she says is “hmm….” when I show her, and then i’ll hear her talking to other people about how nice stuff is when she thinks i’m not around to hear.
Sorry, I’m just feeling like I had a bit of a wasted day. And I was so proud of the stupid veil (and thought the colour was right) until she showed up.
Post # 3
awwww im sure its great!!! and all that matters is what you think!! 🙂 dont let it get you down. my mom does the same thing haha.
Post # 4
please post your pic! looks like i might be adapting a 1980s veil, too! And, regardless of overly critical mothers, I’m sure you did a fantastic job!
Post # 5
Thanks guys – I’ll definitely post some pictures tomorrow! Just charging my battery now.
I think I’m just feeling even more emotional then usual about the whole thing. I’ve been really let down by the amount of help I’ve received from my mother (after she set out such ambitious plans for *us* to do together). It doesn’t help that she’s fully stepped up the last month to fully renovate a house for my sister and her boyfriend to move into together.
Post # 6
Ohhh mothers! Take the help that you can get from them, but basically consider them another wedding guest. Don’t worry about her option unless she throws a hissy-fit. I’m sure the veil is beautiful! Ask your maid of honor how it looks for a better option, and probably rely on her for most of the help as well.
Keep up with the great DIY options and don’t worry about moms 🙂
Post # 7
I’m sure your veil is great! It sounds like you put a lot of effort into it and I’m sure it looks fantastic. It just sounds like the vision she had in her head was different than the vision you had in yours.
I can see how that would be frustrating, though. My mom would always say my ideas were ‘dumb’ and didn’t understand why I wanted to DIY certain things (eg. my headpiece). Then I think she saw how stressed I was getting, and when she tried to brainstorm with me she found out how hard it is, and now I feel like I’m getting a lot more cooperation! Maybe she doesn’t realize how much work it is, or how much it is affecting you.
Post # 8
My ex-husband used to do that to me. If he made a comment at all about something I had done, it would be negative.
The funny thing was that he attended my second wedding, and afterward made a comment about my “beautiful chuppah” (Jewish wedding canopy), which I DIYed. I felt like asking him, “Who are you, and what did you do with my real ex-husband?”
The good news is that when it is your mother, at least you won’t have to live with her after the wedding.