(Closed) DIY is killing the wedding industry complex!

posted 11 years ago in DIY
Post # 17
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@heather25: I am very rash and I apologize if I offend anyone, but seriously speaking everybody on this site knows everything I just wrote: that the money could be much better spent, that the stuff we buy supports unfair trade, that the industry has created an entire false consciousness in the American psyche, etc. People come to terms with these things even before they get engaged, in large part because of the infinitely-more resourceful industry which bombards us with commercials, ads, movies, stories, etc. about what perfect should look like and why we need it. 

Post # 18
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3928 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Okay, I am in the wedding industry, and I have to agree, the DIY trend is taking it’s toll on the wedding industry. Heck, I can get a lot of items at wholesale, and I have chosen to DIY almost everything. As to the flower comment, I am DIYing, well my daughter is, my bouquet and the two girls bouquets and we are using real touch flowers. Even with my discount, I am having to pay just under $300.00 for 3 bouquets. That includes the flowers, the ribbon, the lace, etc. Flowers are expensive and when you add labor and overhead to that, I can see where the costs lie. I am not a florist, but I am very well established in the wedding industry. And I do agree that the fees that some vendors charge are way over the top. Most vendors though will be more than happy to give you a discount. All you have to do is ask.

Post # 19
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1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@heather25 and @Miss Tattoo: In one article I read, the reason why they did that was because “the expectation was higher”. This made me think “okay….so does that mean that at any other time you’d sell me a piece of crap?”

Post # 22
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254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh, I kind of like that idea after getting an over $2K estimate from a florist. DIY is starting to look like such a great idea…

Post # 23
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1515 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

DIY makes the the wedding more personal and unique, IMO.  I plan to do a few things myself, but not everything.  Just looking for ways to save some money.  

 

Post # 25
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@noritake22: Flowers get expensive because people want orchids in winter. All of the flowers from my wedding were seasonal and from the local market. They were under $50 and I think they were perfectly pretty. We are still talking about an industry created problem when people think that unless they have a certain size and certain varieties their bouquets will look cheap. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

All this talk about Western excess with regards to weddings is killing me. The most over the top and excessive weddings I have been to were not Western at all. Some were Indian, some Nigerian and many others from all over the world. It is true that the wedding industry is gouging us on a lot ofthings, but as far as I can tell so is Big Pharma and Big MedDevice. It really just seems to be part of the way most industries are run in the US.

The starving children argument is strange to me. In that case, the DIY wedding is also a waste of money as every extra penny that goes to feed starving children is helpful. People have different weddings for different reasons. If DIY makes the wedding industry rethink some of their tactics, then that is a good thing and I see it as a natural correction of the market and they will have to recalibrate accordingly. This is the other side of the benefit they have been enjoying and they will simply have to work that much harder to sell their services.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@babymilka74: I would have to agree, and if I wasn’t allergic to all things floral, my bouquets would be a lot less expensive becasue I would also use “in season” floral decor and I would keep it simple. Sometimes, less is more, in my opinion.

 

Post # 28
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@plantains: Just for the record, Western had only been mentioned by one person before you. And while none of us are Gandhi, clearly, that does not mean that we should not take into consideration the needs of others before spending extravagant sums of money. 

Post # 29
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312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Really, if no one was paying these prices, the vendors charging them would quickly go out of business.  There is obviously a market.

I think it’s interesting to say that DIY is bad for the WIC when many items that are DIY are recent additions to the idea of a wedding that is central to that created by the WIC.  The WIC says weddings should be highly customized, and DIYers sew napkins and tablecloths, create personalized save the dates, spend hours making homemade jams for favors, and buy craft supplies to cut/print/color/paste/arrange invites/menus/programs/escort cards.  Then, those non-DIYers that want that look turn back to the WIC.  I think it’s cyclical more than anything and feeds off of itself. 

IMO, the problem is the build up of a wedding as an all-encompassing, life-changing, once in a lifetime event (note I say wedding, not marriage).  And this is done by the WIC or the countless hours and energy spent on DIY.

Market research tends to survey the landscape in a particular field.  They would be remiss to ignore the DIY explosion.  But this is in no way the death of the beast.   

Post # 30
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The industry being challenged is always a good thing, no matter which industry you think of. The vendors who sell a great product at a fair price with good customer service will survive.

Even so, I’m definitely DIYing my flowers. Florist wanted near 1k, I can buy them for 300, pretty much, and me and Future Mother-In-Law get to have the fun of putting them together. Win.

Post # 31
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1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@babymilka74:

I am aware that only one person mentioned Western thank you. Given that it was mentioned I see no reason not to address it.

No one is suggesting that people need to be Gandhi, what I deem excessive is often deemed a necessity by others and vice versa. I fail to see how having a backyard DIY wedding versus a big blowout in a fancy shmancy hotel is bringing starving kids any closer to having full stomachs.

Do we need all the clothes in our closets? Do we need to get our hair done all the time? Why should people have more than one car ever? Why should people purchase a home when renting for life is often cheaper? Do we need engagement rings at all?

Unless the people having DIY weddings (I’m doing plenty of DIY for my wedding) are sending the difference that they would have paid to starving children, I don’t see what the two things have to do with each other.

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