(Closed) DIY money saving bride who wanted small wedding…

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would give him a choice.

He can do

a) cough up the extra money to buy the items you were going to DIY

b) reduce the guest list

c) help with time.

You arent going to make it fun, but that shouldnt matter. Its as much his responsibility as it is yours if the big wedding is his request.

Post # 4
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1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ThreeMeers:  this!!

He’s not a child, you shouldn’t have to make it fun for him. 

Post # 5
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257 posts
Helper bee

I am sort of in the same boat. I want to DIY everything! What I have done is come up with “man projects” for him to work on while I am doing the really crafty stuff. For example, his current project is to make a sign that will go by the road to direct people. It involves plywood, saws, paint, etc. Manly stuff. Once the snow is gone, his job will be to cut down trees to get wood slices for my centerpieces. Also very manly (chainsaw). Try to think of things he might actually do, and let him do it his way (don’t supervise or tell him how to do it).

I hope this helps!

Post # 6
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3220 posts
Sugar bee

I wanted to elope, FH wanted to have a wedding. We are having a wedding. Did FH want to help plan or make any decisions with the wedding? No. Guess who is planning the wedding? Sure as heck not me. His mom is. Have you tried this approach?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@Miss2Mrs_Beerlover:  That’s too bad. My Future Mother-In-Law insisted on inviting my parents who have chosen to ignore the invitation so I completely understand! 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Honestly, if he wants the big wedding, he can do the legwork to make it happen. I would refuse to put that stress on myself. I’d tell him to manup or I slash the guest list to make it the intimate (and far more manegable) wedding I wanted in the first place. 350 people would send me to the dang loony bin.

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