(Closed) DIY Wedding Q: Who usually decorates the space for the reception?

posted 6 years ago in Decor
  • poll: Who decorated the spaces for your wedding?
    A wedding planner coordinated everything. : (2 votes)
    7 %
    I coordinated everything but left it to the professionals on the big day. : (11 votes)
    39 %
    We did some of it ourselves, and left some of it for the pros. : (3 votes)
    11 %
    We did it all ourselves and it ended up being a lot of fun! : (9 votes)
    32 %
    We did it all ourselves and regretted it, it was so stressful... : (3 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    One of the venues we looked at said that if we gave them pictures of how we wanted stuff set up, we could drop the stuff off the day before and they’d set it all up for us on the day. That was just included in the venue cost, and was a super-bonus for us.

    Post # 4
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I was kindof between those bottom two options – my bridesmaids, mom, dad, Father-In-Law, BIL and I did it until I needed to go get dressed and do my hair, and then the rest of the crew finished up.  It wasn’t stressful, but it wasn’t exactly fun either. 

    Post # 5
    2227 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We did all our flowers & sweet table ourselves. My BM’s & I spent the entrire evening arranging flowers while Darling Husband & his dad arranged cold cuts on the platters. When we were done, Darling Husband, Father-In-Law & I went to the venue the night before & set up all the centerpieces & decor. It was exciting, to say the least since there was a blizzard that conveniently FILLED the streets with knee high snow. Thank god for SUV’s.


    Post # 6
    4676 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My parents, bridal party, some relatives, Darling Husband and I decorated our reception space the day before.  The caterers put down the table linnens, plates and napkins.  My aunts put together the flowers that morning and placed them on the tables.  We had a few others help out that morning doing other various things.  

    Post # 7
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have a wedding coordinator (comes with our venue), but I’m HOPING that we can get into the venue the night before and decorate ourselves. I might cry if we can’t because a) having them do it costs $250 AN HOUR, and b) I’m too particular to leave it up to someone else to set up. IF I HAVE to let someone else do it, I will be setting something up at home and taking pictures and notes/diagrams.

    Post # 8
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I’m not married yet, but we plan on decorating the venue the day before.  We have the venue rented for Friday-Sunday.   Our families have agreed to help out.  

    Post # 9
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    Check your contract, the rental company my do delivery and pick-up only, not set up. In which case probably the caterer will do it, but again check your contracts. For us, I am DIYing my flowers and a bunch of other stuff, and no DOC. The caterer said they will put flowers on the tables when they’re setting them (we drop off arrangements the day before at the rehearsal and it’s just slap a vase of flowers onto each table.) My lovely lovely lovely aunt generously agreed to go over early and set everything up. It’s not much though–table numbers and a typewriter guestbook, and stick cardbox and seating chart (no escort cards) onto the table. I would recommend bribing asking someone to do that stuff, maybe an aunt or teenage cousins or someone like that.

    Post # 10
    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Our venue is really stict regarding set-up time. They set up the tables in the pre-determined arrangement at 7am, but we and our vendors are not allowed on site for set up unless 2 hours before our “event time” starts. After learning this, I knew I would not be able to do any set up. So, we decided to hire a day-of coordinator, and thankfully she has worked at this venue many times and is familiar with their rules. She’s going to help with decor set up and coordinating the vendors setting up their items while Fiance and I finish getting ready and take first look photos.

    Honestly, if we were able to get into the venue the night before or even early first thing the day of the wedding, I’d like to at least do some of the set up myself… having worked a lot of weddings in the past, I’m 1. Efficient at setting up weddings, and 2. A little picky. 🙂 But, no can do, and I’m so grateful we were able to squeeze a day-of coordinator into our budget. Knowing that we have her seriously puts my mind at ease about all the things that need to happen day-of.

    Post # 12
    9201 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I’ve been to a few DIY weddings of good friends.  In one, the bride and her BMs (including me) and family all helped set up the morning of.  It was a little stressful for the bride cause her mom’s a nutjob, but the rest of us had fun!  In another one, the bride and groom were super busy doing who knows what all day, so a bunch of friends did all the setup.  It was also super fun and they were psyched to have it all done without having to stress about it – but they’re also really low-key people who didn’t need to supervise at all.  Not sure I could do that!

    Post # 13
    7992 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    We have to do it all ourselves the day before. BMs, Maid/Matron of Honor and relatives may or may not help.

    Post # 14
    3340 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Try to enlist the groomsmen and your bridesmaids.  You and the groom and your parents shouldn’t be doing anything on the day of.

    Post # 15
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MonPetite:  I wondered this exact same question when I started planning and wanted to do the wedding all by myself. But then I realized that there was no way around not hiring a wedding coordinator for wedding because I would only have FI’s family to help and felt bad if I had to ask them for help.

    Plus, I’m too much of a control freak so I knew if I left the decorating in the hands of others I would micro-manage too much in order to get the look I wanted and I want everyone, including myself to relax on the day of the wedding. I know I will have too much going on the day of the wedding to be stressing over decorating.

    I also thought about setting up the night before, too, for our wedding but with it being an outdoor wedding I didn’t want things getting blown away or ruined beforehand.

    Is your budget also too tight for a day-of wedding coordinator? If so, I’m sure you will make it happen with friend/family help!  You’d probably be surprised how much people want to help and pitch in.

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