Post # 1
So I had a lot of trouble thinking of a first dance song until I was in my car and heard ‘Stand by me’ on the radio. It’s perfect for us! The only problem is that our DJ kind of snorted and told us that it’s more of a mother/son dance, and that our song should be more about love. Now I’m super self-conscious. What do you think?
Post # 3
I think if that’s the song you want than go for it. I’m surprised the DJ made any comment. I think its a great song!
Post # 4
I think it’s rude that the DJ gave an unsolicited opinion on that.
Post # 5
Tell your DJ to shove it! It’s your wedding, your day, your love. Tell him to keep his trap shut, he is YOUR employee for the night!
Post # 6
I think it’s a beautiful song and it is totally appropriate. How is a song about standing by someone you love innapropriate for a first dance? Especially if you and your fiance find personal meaning in it. Regardless, you don’t have to justify your song choice to anyone. It’s none of the DJ’s business what song you pick–his job is to play it, not give his opinion on it.
And again, don’t feel self-consious..I think it’s a great choice of song!
Post # 7
It isn’t his first dance, don’t let his opinion get you down! I think it will be great!
Post # 8
Umm, I do believe YOU’RE paying the DJ, and not the other way around. I’d politely let the DJ know that you’ve settled on the song you want, it is perfect for your relationship, and you do not wish to receive anymore unsolicited advice.
Post # 9
Thanks guys! I intitially was like eff you dude, but then I wondered if guests would question the song choice too. Oh well, I’m glad you guys like it too.
Post # 10
Tell your DJ to shove it because that is the song you want to use. Or get another DJ (not practical, but you don’t need his comments.)
Post # 11
NOT cool. Tell him that’s what you want! Maybe make a call to his employer and file a complaint/request another DJ. I am sure they do not want to lose your business. Do you feel comfortable with him? He might be one of those who plays what he wants…
Post # 12
If you love the song then use it. The dj has no say in what he feels about it. For what it’s worth, it’s much more of a love song, if you look at the lyrics, than a mother-son song.
Post # 13
I mean, everyone has already said this, but it is not HIS first dance, it’s yours! That song is so sweet, and I love that it’s not something everyone picks. If you want it- use it!
Post # 14
YES! This was our first dance song, and I LOVE IT. (actually, we used the John Lennon version, but same difference). Our guests loved it too.
Your DJ needs to keep his opinions to himself.
Post # 15
I am totally biased because this is the song that plays when my mom calls me… so I can’t really think of it as a romantic song. However, the show Stand By Me was about best friends, and if you are marrying your best friend (which I assume you are) then it will be a great 1st song!
Post # 16
@socalmeli: It’s YOUR wedding and as the client of this DJ you have the right to choose whatever song you want, and he should 100% respect that. If he continues, I would threaten to tell others that he is a jacka** and never give a good referral!