(Closed) DJ wants us to provide our own music?!

posted 8 years ago in Music
  • poll: What's up with the DJ's request?
    The DJ is totally correct in requesting that you provide the music. : (12 votes)
    22 %
    I can see why he might request this, but seems a little strange to me. : (21 votes)
    39 %
    He is absolutely bonkers! : (19 votes)
    35 %
    Other. Please comment. : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    That is completely out of line for him to suggest. Providing music (and searching out specific versions) is HIS job, not yours. Dump him asap and find someone else who is much more competent.

    Post # 4
    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I can see why he is making this request. Can you imagine if you asked for Ave Maria, and were thinking a lovely guitar solo, and got a four piece brass version?

    It sounds to me that your DJ is probably older and isn’t super comfortable with technology, or would offer this service himself. If this would add a lot of work, let him know and see if you can get his help.

    Post # 5
    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    First of all…if the bolded portion is the exact email you received…how unprofessional!  Typos, grammar and capital errors all over the place!  With that said, he should be the one to find the songs for you, though I do think it is important you specify what versions of the songs you want.  I would make sure you listen to the songs as well to make sure they are correct.  I get that he wants to make sure he has the right versions, but I really don’t think you should be the one to provide the songs, unless for some crazy reason, he is unable to find the version you are looking for.  It just seems a bit off to me.

    Post # 6
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    ummm thats kinda weird. i guess i can see what he means, but that doesnt mean that you pay for the music yourself. thats HIS job. what are you paying him for? sheesh. you might as well just have an ipod wedding or something!

    Post # 7
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I can see where he’s coming from.  There are many versions of many songs, so I think he’s just asking you to provide them so he doesn’t choose a wrong one.  Maybe you could email him back and tell him specifically which version you like the best, and see if he already has it in his repetoire. 

    Post # 8
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    In the age of so many choreographed first dances, father daughter dances etc. I can understand where he is coming from. I don’t think it is meant to be rude, but rather to make sure that you will be happy with the songs.

    If you truely don’t care which version it is then he probably has it in stock, and I doubt would make you provide a copy.

    Post # 9
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My take on this is that he values your first dance, entrance, recessional, etc and is suggesting that you provide your own music for these instances so that you know exactly what you’re getting. You won’t be disappointed by having the wrong version played. I think this is actually a good thing cos he’s making sure you get exactly what you want for those big important moments in your wedding. If it was for the whole night and he wanted you to provide the music for your entire reception then I’d DEFINITELY be questioning that but IMO he’s just ensuring that you’ll be getting what you want. Imagine asking for a specific song and then having a dance remix played. Mortifying.

    Although I do happen to agree that perhaps he should be proof-reading his emails cos that is unprofessional to send you something that’s riddled with incorrect spelling and grammatical errors.

    Post # 10
    53 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m sorry but this is wrong. Any DJ worth the fee you are paying them would have a different solution to this. They should ask you the song and version you want, and then they should source it for you if they don’t already have it, and then they should be testing it to make sure it works properly. This is exactly what our DJ is doing for us, though it’s unlikely he’ll need to purchase anything as he has about 40,000 songs. The DJ is providing you a service which should include sourcing any music (within reason). Their job is not to put the onus on you to do their work for them. I honestly would be nervous about working with your DJ and would try to get out of the contract and find someone more professional.

    Post # 11
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree that he may just want to make sure that he has the correct version however he’s a DJ – he should have multiple versions of songs.

    If he didn’t have one or two particular songs I could see providing them but you shouldn’t have to provide ALL of them. His job as a DJ is to have a huge library of music. It’s like your photographer only having one lens.

    You should see if you can have him pull together your requests and then meet with him to see what’s missing or isn’t the right version and then those are the ones you can provide to him.

    Post # 12
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think it’s perfectly fine to ask that if you want anything special or specific that you provide it for all the reasons the above posters have said.  I’m actually surprised that anyone else didn’t expect this.  I absolutely expected to provide these songs even before I booked my dj.  His job is to choose the music for the general dance section, not for the ceremony/special dances.

    Post # 13
    1757 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    When we met with our DJ, he addressed this specific situation by explaining that acquiring any songs we want that he doesn’t already have is included in his fee. We benefit, since we get the music we want. And he benefits, since his song library gets even bigger. Plus, he’ll meet with us as the wedding date draws nearer, to make sure that he has the versions we want.

    Post # 14
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    um….that is definately crazy. it is HIS job to provide that…next he is gonna ask if you have any speakers he can use as it will reproduce the sound to your specificity. DUMP HIM.

    Post # 15
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I am in agreement with several other ladies. It is his JOB to find the music you want. If he is that worried about making certain that it is the exact version which you want, he should set up a meeting before the day for you to listen to all of the songs that you specifically requestedto ensure that they are what you wanted. You should not be doing his work by finding and downloading the music. Besides if you are specific enough, e.g., Ave Maria as sung by XX choir or the song XX by group XYZ off of their 123 album he should have no problem meeting you request.

    Post # 16
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    This request by your DJ only makes sense if you’re asking for rare versions of songs that he might not have in his library.  My Fiance wants some music that is very specific to Mexican culture (a style called zapatiado) that my DJ just doesn’t have.  So we’ll be providing some songs on a flash drive.  Other than that, your DJ should have all the popular songs available for you!

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