(Closed) DMV and husband's hyphenated name

posted 5 years ago in Legal
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Holy cow you are going to have a lot of aliases for a while.

What is the law in IA for how you can create names? in CA you can make any combination at all out of your names. So what you want to do is perfectly legal and on the books in writing. However, it must be done on the marriage certificate exactly the way you want it or you have to pay for the name change. To me it sounds like you did all that, so if you have similar laws you just need to find educated people to help you out.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Okay, I reread as I forgot some of the details… it doesn’t have the name as you want it on the certificate.  There inlies the problem. I think you are screwed without the legal name change, but I have no legal background.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Wow this really a pickle. Can you get a drivers license at the DMV in Indiana? Then just transfer to Iowa? Otherwise I would pay for the name change. Also if I were you I would both drop his mom’s maiden and your maiden name. Just be Melinda Ann Roberts, and he should do the same. If youre going to be Mr and Mrs Roberts then adding the additional names is only creating additional aggravation for YOU! anytime you have more than three named it becomes an adventure for bank accounts mortgages etc, it’ll be a constant pain in the tush.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I guess I don’t understand how it’s sexist… You want to change your name to something other than your husband’s legal last name. Whether it’s you, your husband, or the milkman trying to change their name to anything other than their legal last name, it’s still a “go to court, pay the fee” situation. 

Ideal? No. But you can’t really change what the federal regulation is because it’s inconvenient. And fudging the Indiana document is something I wouldn’t choose to do.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

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midnightmeercats:  Yeah thats where I would start. I think if you have a marriage certificate with what you want on it, almost any state will go with it.

On a side note – I’m one of those people with 4 names, my SSN and birth certificate has 4 names, the Drivers license has never put 4 names on it. in 3 different states they never bothered. The last time I changed my name I almost dropped my 2nd middle names and made it my real one but I didn’t want to offend anyone and or up with more aliases.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

 

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midnightmeercats:  Frustrating that you have to fork out the $500 but it seems like its going to be the least hassle.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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midnightmeercats:  You should go to the DMV with your SS card.  That would be your legal name with the federal government at this point.    Bring the marriage licesne with you if you want, but I think your SS name trumps.

And you are right, Iowa law is very nice on the marriage license to name change portion.  And allow men to change their names at marriage or divorce as well without a fee.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When I went to the DMV after getting married – they wouldn’t allow me NOT to have a middle name. I was not given a middle name at birth so they said I had to keep my maiden name as my middle name. Maiden name is 18 letters with a hyphen b/c my parents thought they were cute. It’s annoying. SSA didn’t bother, but DMV said I HAD TO HAVE a middle name or else pay for a new middle name – but I didn’t even have one to begin with … 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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midnightmeercats:  Unless your Mother-In-Law asks to see your social there is no way she’ll know what your “legal” name is. I have see this issue screw up people’s credit and red flag them for using “aliases” on their credit report. You’d be suprised the way this can screw up you finances. 

 

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