Post # 1
I am stressed about my guest list. I can only really afford to have 125-130 people come to the reception….but if I invite 125-130 does that mean that only, 100 may come? or less? but what if I invite 160 (which is what my guest list is at now), and like, 145 RSVP yes?!?! I know people say that 20-30 percent declining is the norm, but I am afriad of what will happen if that is NOT the case and how I will pay for it! But I also dont want to only invite 125 and have way less than that come…then it will feel empty to me.
HELP–what did all of you do???
Post # 3
Actually I didn’t get a lot of ‘no’ rsvp’s …. the people who didn’t come just didn’t reply and wouldn’t answer their phones! YAY PEOPLE! Besides that we have about 75% of our guestlist coming
Post # 4
It all depends on who you are inviting. If you know most of your guests personally and a lot live local or are immediate family you probably won’t get a lot of 20’s. We had 90% rsvp yes and end with 205 people.
Post # 5
It varies so much that I’d only invite as many as you can afford. If less come, then you’ll have a bit more money in the bank after the wedding. That’s a far better scenario that hoping guests RSVP no – I can imagine that’s a lot of added stress right before the wedding.
Post # 6
We didn’t invite more people than we could afford or accommodate comfortably at our venue. With our budget, that meant about 75 people. With (nearly) all the responses back, we’re looking at around 60 people attending, so right around that 20% area. We knew a few people would be definite no’s but we were still not comfortable inviting more than we could afford, just in case.
Post # 7
@bonsai_spork: This is exactly what I am afraid of. I have had only 1 person reply with a definite “no.”
I have a close friend that texted me a few weeks ago and said she probably won’t be able to make it but “maybe.” She said she doesn’t have the money to travel to FL for the wedding. She’s on FB all the time though traveling all over for pleasure, not job related. If she does not want to come to the wedding that’s fine. I’d just like to know one way or another at this point. We are having such a small wedding (50 ppl) and it would not be such a big deal if the guest list wasn’t so limited.
I know this seems pretty trivial compared to other wedding delimas but just had to vent for a second.
Post # 8
We had a 40% decline rate – but our wedding was far away from most (required a plane ride (not destination)), and barely anyone from my DH’s family came (due to financial reasons). We knew this ahead of time however and based our guest list on this fact. We invited 205 and had 125 show.
I think your numbers will depend upon a few things: 1) Is your wedding considered local for the majority of guests? 2) Is it at a time that won’t require the majority of people to take time off of work to attend? 3) How close are you to the guests you have invited?
Post # 9
We invited 278 and Have a final number of 223. We had a B list though, so initially we invited 255. We mailed the out of town invites early, and when we got NO responses we invited some extra work people of FI’s and let a few people bring plus one’s.
Post # 10
I had a list of 167 and it has consistently been about a 20% decline rate. I wanted to keep the guest count around 130. I have 131 Yes’s, with 7 more that have not responded.
Post # 11
We were exactly at a 20% decline rate. I am an event coordinator and the average decline rate of the last weddings we have done is 18% if that helps.
Post # 12
I am afraid of this too. I want to stay between 130-150 my list is about 165 and there are ppl on there that I know won’t attend but I have to send them an invite any way. After I check those I know won’t come, I ended up with under 130 and I’m sure some of those 130 wouldn’t be able to attend. So do I keep adding to the guest list or do I just stop? Wedding planning really sucks sometimes
Post # 13
Ours was about 20%. We invited 80, 65 came.
Don’t stress about it. It may not happen to you and you may end up with too many people if you invite extra.
Post # 14
This may scare you a little bit but we invited 136…. and we have 134 attending, which means our percentage of guests declining is 1.5%
Our venue was large enough to hold more people, but we only wanted to invite people that we are close with and are special to us, which might be why our decline rate is low. We didn’t include people from work or casual “friends”, also our parents were limited with “rules” of who they could invite (we had to have known them for a while and have a good relationship with them).
Honestly, I wouldn’t invite more people than you can accomodate. It’s always easier to invite more people by saying “Guess what, our venue is allowing us to have more guests” than to say “Sorry, but you know how I gave you an invitation to our wedding…. umm, I’m going to need to take that back”.