Post # 1
I know that etiquette dictates that adults over the age of 18 get their own invitation even when they live at home with their parents. What about save the dates? It would seem odd to send multiple magnets to one address where there’s only one refrigerator (LOL). However, I would want to make sure that adult children know they’re included. Should I send separate save the dates? Should I list the adult child(ren)’s name(s) under the parents’ names on the envelope (and then would I need to list all of the children’s names if we decide to invite younger children)? *Sigh* How have you ladies (and gents) handled this?
Post # 3
Just put the parents’ names on the STD envelopes & family.Then send the adult children separate invitations after that.
Post # 4
I didn’t even know the etiquette you just posted lol. When I sent save the dates, I addressed it to the family (i.e., The Robertson Family) if it included younger children or adult children living there. I will do the same for invitations for young children, but will probably send adult children their own invites.
Post # 5
This is one of the many reasons I actually chose not do STDs. It is very difficult to decide this far in advance of the wedding who, exactly, will be invited to the wedding. As you know, once someone receives an STD, he or she also must receive an invitation to the wedding.
You definitely have the etiquette down for the invitations regarding adult and minor childen. (Adult children receive their own, and minor children are listed by name, but ONLY on the inner envelope, not the outer envelopes.)
Since you are not ready to determine whether or not the minor children will receive invitations to the wedding, and since I would presume that there are no inner envelopes involved with STDs (not sure, since I did not pursue this), I would recommend that you follow the etiquette for outer envelopes for wedding invitations. Therefore, I would send each adult member of the household (married couples, obviously would be considered one entity) his or her own STD, by name.
Post # 6
Adult children living in a separate household should get a separate STD and invitation but in my head it is okay to address Mr. and Mrs. Smith on the first line and Steve Smith on the second line of the invitation address.
Post # 7
I agree baletrina!
You should give any person who lives on their own their own invitation. I just receieved an invitation from a close cousin through my mom (soandso and invitations) who I never received an invitation from. She said to “mymomandfamily” and I will not be attending. If my fiance and I were invited individually, we would be attending!
And just to clarify, I am an adult child living on my own.
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice, ladies!