(Closed) Do adult children get their own save the dates?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just put the parents’ names on the STD envelopes & family.Then send the adult children separate invitations after that.

Post # 4
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t even know the etiquette you just posted lol. When I sent save the dates, I addressed it to the family (i.e., The Robertson Family) if it included younger children or adult children living there. I will do the same for invitations for young children, but will probably send adult children their own invites.

Post # 5
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

This is one of the many reasons I actually chose not do STDs.  It is very difficult to decide this far in advance of the wedding who, exactly, will be invited to the wedding.  As you know, once someone receives an STD,  he or she also must receive an invitation to the wedding.

You definitely have the etiquette down for the invitations regarding adult and minor childen.  (Adult children receive their own, and minor children are listed by name, but ONLY on the inner envelope, not the outer envelopes.)

Since you are not ready to determine whether or not the minor children will receive invitations to the wedding, and since I would presume that there are no inner envelopes involved with STDs (not sure, since I did not pursue this), I would recommend that you follow the etiquette for outer envelopes for wedding invitations.  Therefore, I would send each adult member of the household (married couples, obviously would be considered one entity) his or her own STD, by name.

Post # 6
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Adult children living in a separate household should get a separate STD and invitation but in my head it is okay to address Mr. and Mrs. Smith on the first line and Steve Smith on the second line of the invitation address. 

Post # 7
69 posts
Worker bee

I agree baletrina!


You should give any person who lives on their own their own invitation. I just receieved an invitation from a close cousin through my mom (soandso and invitations) who I never received an invitation from. She said to “mymomandfamily” and I will not be attending. If my fiance and I were invited individually, we would be attending!


And just to clarify, I am an adult child living on my own.

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