(Closed) Do any bees out there feel guilty for upgrading your e-ring?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
9814 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Pendant maybe? 

Post # 4
2389 posts
Buzzing bee

I haven’t upgraded,  but have you thought about having the stones from your original ering set into new jewelery?

Post # 5
4710 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

No I dont feel guilty about upgrading and my old ring was turned in to the place we purchased it cause they had an upgrade program.

Do you have a son or daughter or both? Give it to them when they get older or take the stones and rebuild another right hand ring?

Post # 6
1254 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - victoria educational gardens

You shouldn’t feel bad about upgrading. Happy wife, happy life right? LOL You could always save your original ering for daughter or son’s future wife. Or take the diamonds out and make a special piece of jewelry.

Post # 7
986 posts
Busy bee

I think RHR or pendant, as PP mentioned. That way you can still wear it and enjoy it, but you still get your upgrade. If you and DH are fine with upgrading, then good for you! No reason to feel guilty. 🙂 

Post # 8
380 posts
Helper bee

I felt slightly guilty at first. We kept the same setting but replaced my original .25 diamond with a .75 Moissanite. At first when we discussed it my husband said the same as yours, that he didn’t mind the idea he just didn’t get why I wanted to change it. 

Now that the stones have been changed I am 100% in love with my new ring and so is he! He is so proud of the new ring so he tells all his buddies and tries to show it off lol. His new love for my ring erased any guilt I was feeling because it is clear that it was the right choice for us.

I also suggest trying to set your emerald into some other type of jewellery if you love it. I was going to do that with my diamond but on its own its so small that there isn’t any point in putting it into earrings or a necklace so I’m just holding onto the stone for now.

Post # 9
2901 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

Eh….we upgraded but my DH was not loving my ring anyway. He proposed with a .75 rb that was about H in color and I1 in clarity. Which was great because that was the best we could afford at the time. But he really loves princess cuts and I really wanted color somewhere in my ring….long story short, 3 years later, I ended up with a 1.02 princess celebration cut, G color, VS2 clarity and a diamond and purple amethyst wedding band. He just wanted to make me happy…I love my new set alot more than my old set so mission accomplished. Would I mind upgrading again? I would not mind at all! Haha…I probably would just go for a bigger stone and a anniversary band at some point. So no. no guilt at all Laughing

I was able to exchange my old set for the new so I did not end up with an “extra” ring. But If I kept it I would use it as my “stand in ring” or give it to my children.

Post # 10
8031 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@becleeham:  I don’t like the idea of saving the ring for a future daughter in law etc. I would want to have my OWN ring. Unless a ring was an insanely amazing heirloom, I wouldn’t be too happy having a hand me down ring. Just saying. You could always give that as an option, but you’re still faced with the problem of keeping the ring in a drawer for like 20 years, right?

I’d probably switch the setting to white gold and have it as a right hand ring. Or turn it into a necklace. You don’t have to decide right away, though. I’d make this a fun process and do some research until you come up with something you love.

Post # 11
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I do feel guilty, but that’s because I feel guilty spending more than $5 on myself. DH is the one who’s pushing replacing my ring.

We’re keeping my current ring, either to pass down or to reuse in another way later. It holds a lot of sentimental value as we’re both huge saps 😉

Post # 12
2386 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think I could ever upgrade – I’m too sentimental about the rings we picked out together!  Knowing my H it would also hurt his feelings 🙁

Post # 13
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Not guilty at all.  I wear my old e-ring on my right hand.  Fi doesn’t care and I picked out both rings anyway. The upgrade is just something I really wanted (halo style, diamonds, white gold). The old e-ring we got because it was what we could afford. I wanted to get something I loved that was in our budget so I got it… I fell in love with it and that is why I still wear it on my right hand.

Post # 14
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Let me think about that for a minute….Do I feel guilty?


Aside from seeing our faces in mirrors, our hands are the main reflection that we see of ourselves every day….and since I’m not required to keep the same car, the same hair cut or the same home, JUST because I already have it, I feel no guilt about changing something so meaningful to me as I evolve and change with it, especially since I look at it on my hand about a million times a day!

Post # 16
1926 posts
Buzzing bee

I do feel guilty, but mine is kind of an interesting situation- I have a “pre-engagement/promise” ring, but it was decently expensive and I feel guilty asking my SO for a new ring. If my current ring could accommodate a straight wedding band, I would have just asked for that! He’s insisting on getting me an “official” engagement ring though.

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