Post # 1
So I have just purchased a diamond for my 2nd e-ring, as my first ring does not fit anymore (swollen fingers after having my first baby which was 1.5 years ago, but it still doesnt fit!). When I first received the original ring it had to be re-sized by more than 4 sizes and as a result some little diamonds surrounding the centre emerald stone fell out. Now my fingers have gotten a bit larger and the ring needs to be made larger and I’m worried even more stones will fall out if we enlarge it after the original re-sizing.
Asides from the re-sizing issue, I am a bit embarassed to say this, but I have outgrown the emerald centre stone and wished for something more traditional. At the time we got engaged, I was enthralled with the ring and it was exactly what I asked for (this was 7 years ago). I’m 30 now and cant think back to why i wanted an emerald yellow gold ring in the first place…. That said, it is very pretty and I adore my now husband for scouting for it, but I’m ready for the bling!
My husband is Ok with me wanting to upgrade to a diamond only ring as he just wants me to be happy and can see how excited I am about choosing a new ring (though he doesn’t really understand what all the fuss is about!)
I am really excited about wearing my new ring but feel a bit guilty. What do I do with the old e-ring? Wear it on right hand? I don’t want to put it in the drawer despite being a bit over the yellow gold.
What did you bees do with your original rings when you upgraded?
Post # 4
I haven’t upgraded, but have you thought about having the stones from your original ering set into new jewelery?
Post # 5
No I dont feel guilty about upgrading and my old ring was turned in to the place we purchased it cause they had an upgrade program.
Do you have a son or daughter or both? Give it to them when they get older or take the stones and rebuild another right hand ring?
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - victoria educational gardens
You shouldn’t feel bad about upgrading. Happy wife, happy life right? LOL You could always save your original ering for daughter or son’s future wife. Or take the diamonds out and make a special piece of jewelry.
Post # 7
I think RHR or pendant, as PP mentioned. That way you can still wear it and enjoy it, but you still get your upgrade. If you and DH are fine with upgrading, then good for you! No reason to feel guilty. 🙂
Post # 8
I felt slightly guilty at first. We kept the same setting but replaced my original .25 diamond with a .75 Moissanite. At first when we discussed it my husband said the same as yours, that he didn’t mind the idea he just didn’t get why I wanted to change it.
Now that the stones have been changed I am 100% in love with my new ring and so is he! He is so proud of the new ring so he tells all his buddies and tries to show it off lol. His new love for my ring erased any guilt I was feeling because it is clear that it was the right choice for us.
I also suggest trying to set your emerald into some other type of jewellery if you love it. I was going to do that with my diamond but on its own its so small that there isn’t any point in putting it into earrings or a necklace so I’m just holding onto the stone for now.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX
Eh….we upgraded but my DH was not loving my ring anyway. He proposed with a .75 rb that was about H in color and I1 in clarity. Which was great because that was the best we could afford at the time. But he really loves princess cuts and I really wanted color somewhere in my ring….long story short, 3 years later, I ended up with a 1.02 princess celebration cut, G color, VS2 clarity and a diamond and purple amethyst wedding band. He just wanted to make me happy…I love my new set alot more than my old set so mission accomplished. Would I mind upgrading again? I would not mind at all! Haha…I probably would just go for a bigger stone and a anniversary band at some point. So no. no guilt at all
I was able to exchange my old set for the new so I did not end up with an “extra” ring. But If I kept it I would use it as my “stand in ring” or give it to my children.
Post # 10
@becleeham: I don’t like the idea of saving the ring for a future daughter in law etc. I would want to have my OWN ring. Unless a ring was an insanely amazing heirloom, I wouldn’t be too happy having a hand me down ring. Just saying. You could always give that as an option, but you’re still faced with the problem of keeping the ring in a drawer for like 20 years, right?
I’d probably switch the setting to white gold and have it as a right hand ring. Or turn it into a necklace. You don’t have to decide right away, though. I’d make this a fun process and do some research until you come up with something you love.
Post # 11
I do feel guilty, but that’s because I feel guilty spending more than $5 on myself. DH is the one who’s pushing replacing my ring.
We’re keeping my current ring, either to pass down or to reuse in another way later. It holds a lot of sentimental value as we’re both huge saps 😉
Post # 12
I don’t think I could ever upgrade – I’m too sentimental about the rings we picked out together! Knowing my H it would also hurt his feelings 🙁
Post # 13
Not guilty at all. I wear my old e-ring on my right hand. Fi doesn’t care and I picked out both rings anyway. The upgrade is just something I really wanted (halo style, diamonds, white gold). The old e-ring we got because it was what we could afford. I wanted to get something I loved that was in our budget so I got it… I fell in love with it and that is why I still wear it on my right hand.
Post # 14
Let me think about that for a minute….Do I feel guilty?
Aside from seeing our faces in mirrors, our hands are the main reflection that we see of ourselves every day….and since I’m not required to keep the same car, the same hair cut or the same home, JUST because I already have it, I feel no guilt about changing something so meaningful to me as I evolve and change with it, especially since I look at it on my hand about a million times a day!
Post # 15
Wow, so many insightful and wise responses to my predicament that I can’t respond all each and every one!
I don’t feel as guilty anymore about upgrading, I just feel a bit sad that I don’t love the ring that my husband spent days picking out as much as I used to.
I don’t think my hubby would like me changing the ring into anything else, so I guess I’ll be wearing it on my right hand (right hand with yellow gold rings, left hand with new upgraded white gold rings). Strange look much?
By the way, this site is addictive! I’m only new here and I feel like I always want to check out what you bees have to say
Post # 16
I do feel guilty, but mine is kind of an interesting situation- I have a “pre-engagement/promise” ring, but it was decently expensive and I feel guilty asking my SO for a new ring. If my current ring could accommodate a straight wedding band, I would have just asked for that! He’s insisting on getting me an “official” engagement ring though.