(Closed) Do any married/engaged couples use condoms as their birth control method?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 107
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@MrsPanda99:  yup. Just one per sexytime!

Post # 109
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsPanda99:  Well, I’m not sexually active but I’d prefer condom over any hormons or injecting something into body. To my knowledge, the safetest methods are vasectomy and condoms (assuming you’re not allegic to the material). So I think condoms are the best before kids and after having enough(?), vasectomy is.

Post # 110
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@MrsPanda99:  it didn’t really smell like anything. Hubbs says it felt a bit sticky sometimes, but not always. make sure to fold it in half twice so it doesnt stick to your finger.

Post # 111
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

A few years back I suffered a blood clot and pulmonary embolism, I now cannot take any form of hormonal BC. We use condoms but we did even before when I was on the Nuvaring. We really didn’t want to get pregnant!

I cannot wait until we are TTC, I am so sick of condoms.

ETA: I could use Paraguard as it is hormonal free but DH is paranoid and we would still be using condoms.

 

Post # 112
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsPanda99:  I didn’t read through all of the replies, but there’s definitely nothing weird about using condoms in a monogamous relationship!  I understand your concerns since you have a latex allergy, though.  I honestly don’t know much about other types of condoms, but one of my closest friends from college has a latex allergy and she and her now husband relied solely on non-latex condoms for years without any unplanned pregnancies.  

I’ve been on birth control pills since I was 17 (I’m 28 now).  I also almost always “double up” and use a condom (and this has been true even in my three most serious relationships).  My fiance and I have been together for 6 years, and we only recently (within the last year or so) started having sex without a condom from time to time.  When we go without, though, he always pulls out.  I’ve actually never allowed anyone to ejaculate inside me, and the thought of it kind of freaks me out for some reason.  (Yeah, I’m weird.) 

Post # 113
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I started out using condoms, and have been for 22 years.  No problems, but I was always serious about them.  Knew how to put them on before having sex (hello banana practice lol).  I would provide them and lube (because usually they break because they get dry+friction=break).  I can only think of one that broke (and it was human error).  And having them be a fun part is doable: you put them on, or touch him while he does, joke about it, enjoy it!  No guy ever got away with “I don’t have any.”  cause it was either “no sex” or “I do!”.

Having started out with them, they never feel weird or like something you only would do with a one night stand or something lol.  I tried Depo when I was 21 and it was horrid for 9 months before it even started getting better (on one 3 month shot)… at least I wasn’t having sex and didn’t have a man at the time!  I was bleeding non stop, sleeping 16 hours (I’m usually good on 6-8… luckily I lived across the street from work and had an understanding boss), and hurting all over for that 9 months.  It was years before I asked another doc about BC who told me I should not be on anything hormal becuase I’d be at high risk for stroke… would have nice if the first doc told me that (since he knew about the underlying condition)!

I think there’s a variety of reasons why people say it doesn’t feel as good.  I have had skin on skin, rarely, at safe times in a long term relationship.  It does feel a little tiny bit better but as one poster said “then there’s the mess”.  🙂  You get spoiled on condoms lol.  Also different condom brand/styles feel more natural for a given couple than others.  Lube is important, but that can be fun too!  DH and I tried one brand of condoms and agreed they were awful… but they are probably some other couples favorite.  But NEVER believe the “I need a large/extra-large/magnum” unless they guy is hung like a porn star.  And I actually dated a guy who pulled out a magnum condom when we got hot and heavy.  I laughed.  I told him “You aren’t small at all, but you’re not that big, and if it doesn’t fit correctly, it’s pointless.”.  I’ve only met men who were jerks in other ways complain about condoms (red flag, he should care about you being safe and not pregnant unless you’re trying!).

I have nothing against BC.  I’ve known lots of women with no issues, or for who it helped other issues.  I think the biggest problems is the revolving door medical society.  They don’t really sit down and discuss your options, side effects, etc.  Even if you have a known issue that makes it so you shouldn’t take it, too many docs don’t tell you.  Even so, it is hormones and medicine, and just taking an asprin or something can cause a freak reaction in rare cases.  All those crazy side effects in medicine inserts actually happened in that percentage to someone!  Luckily chances are it won’t be you, but it’s worth considering the risk and if it’s right for you. It’s a very personal/couple decision… whatever works for them!

Post # 114
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Helper bee

yes I don’t trust it at all and am glad I’ve never been on it.  I try and be completely all natural and don’t want anything to mess with my hormones and natural cycle.  It’s also cheaper and don’t have the hassle of going to the dr

Post # 115
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Busy bee

I haven’t used condoms in so long. My vagina hates latex too, so it was an easy decision to go on the pill. It’s been almost 10 years and I’ve been talking about having a break from it. But we wouldn’t use condoms, or would I go on anything else. Just not ready for a oops if we do. 

Post # 116
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Fiance and I currently went back to condoms.  Throughout our relationship, I was on the Pill.  Not only did it curb my sex drive, it made me gain weight.  Now that I’m in 30s, I decided to finally stop.  My sex drive is off the charts.  On the other hand, since the switch, we’ve only had sex once.

Post # 117
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We used condoms early on in our relationship. Then we used them for a few weeks after I had my Mirena removed while my reproductive endocrinologist figured out dosing for my medication (it’s not birth control per se – so Obamacare isn’t helping me out with my $40 a month for that med – but it can work as birth control). And then when I’m sick and can’t keep anything down, we use them for a few days after, just in case. I was recently sick and couldn’t keep water down (even with TWO different prescription anti-nausea meds; I was miserable), so meds weren’t staying down. We got frisky recently and I grabeed some condoms out of one of my bags (I’m a sex educator, so they’re around!). While it’s not my favorite form of birth control, I would absolutely go back to using them primarily if need be

Post # 118
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@MrsPanda99:  My Fiance and I use condoms almost all of the time. 🙂 I am on the pill also, but I hate the feeling of stuff in my vajayjay. I’m sure we will use them when we’re married as well. 

Post # 119
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yup. I have a disorder that prevents me from using hormonal birth control and another one that prevents me from using the copper IUD. We’ve been married for almost 3 years now, together almost 6 and totally monogamous, sooooo…I mean yeah, people in committed relationships use them. 

Post # 120
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We used condoms for a few months. I was on the pill before that. We both disliked it, and it was getting risky as far as unplanned pregnancy. That’s why I went with the IUD. I sing its praises to every woman I know who is contemplating BC choices, though mine is hormonal, and I know not everyone wants that.

Post # 121
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

We are no longer on the pill. We’re using FAM (fertility awareness method) and barriers when I’m fertile. I was scared to go off the pill, but I don’t regret it at all.

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