Post # 1
Hi everyone! Our wedding, including a week honeymoon in Fiji, is going to be around $33k. We have around 45 people coming to our wedding. Luckly, we’ve been able to save $ and the majority of it will be paid off in full (no cc debt). But I still feel so guilty with us spending all this money…is that normal?
Post # 3
This is a huge expense. The way I rationalize it is that I’m spending on a wedding less than what I would spend on a new car. Keeping my 4-runner for another 3 years isn’t that big of a deal. 🙂
Post # 4
Yup. I feel guilty all the time because it just seems so pointless sometimes. I will have SO much more money after this wedding is over and I won’t be spending a huge chunk of my paychecks on down payments and favors and whatnot! I can’t wait!
Post # 5
Yeah I do think about that sometimes. However, I figure you aren’t just paying for the day you are paying for a lifetime of memories. Yes, that cheesiness helps me rationalize it haha.
Post # 6
I feel like this alot. We haven’t come up with a final budget yet (haven’t spent anything yet!), but it’s sooo much! Plus some vendors, the minute you say “wedding”, the price goes up.
I cope by:
1. Realizing I’m only doing this once (hopefully!)
2. Some things WILL last more than one day: the commitment, photos, rings, strengthened bonds with family and friends
3. There’s alot of sadness in the world- if I’m going to spend the money, at least it’s on something “happy!”
4. NO DEBT- Like you mentioned. At least you won’t be paying it off after the fact.
Hang in there! I agree- it is bothersome sometimes.
Post # 8
All the damn time! In order to lessen that feeling, we are carefully considering, researching and evaluating each aspect before signing any contracts, just to make sure we are getting the most for the money we are spending.
Post # 9
We have a budget but it’s hard to stick to sometimes. It seems that as soon as we save on one thing, something else pops up that costs more than we budgeted. But I think it’s that way for everything in life. So we don’t feel very guilty, we feel we’re doing something for us that we both want. We look at it as the investment in the ceremony that is celebrating the path we have chosen to take in life together.
I do feel a little guilty sometimes, but all in all we’re keeping it pretty simple with the wedding expenses.
As far as the honeymoon expenses go, though, hell NO, I don’t feel one bit guilty. We deserve the nicest vacation together possible. So that is where we’ll be spending most of our money.
Post # 10
I was obsessed with the amount of money we’re spending and the stress of it was eating me alive. Then I decided it was turning into a circus and not any fun at all any more. So we moved our reception to a backyard bbq with a live bluegrass band, kegs, and smoked meat. And now we’re actually spending more money on the Destination Wedding for the few people that are going. I’m so much more comfortable with it now.
Post # 11
@Sunfire: Money on Honeymoon- Agreed.
Post # 12
Yeah, I keep telling myself that I’m only doing this once and it is the beginning of OUR life together…might as well do it the way we want to…
And I definitely agree about the honeymoon, Sunfire! 😉
Post # 13
Yep, sure do. We’re working with a $10k budget and hopefully we can stick to that. But even $10k feels excessive to me. I wanted to elope SO badly. I really did just want to run off to some exotic vacation for a week, have a blast, get married, come home. Maybe have a little party with the fam and friends afterwards. But, no, Fiance wants the whole shebang, so that’s what we’re doing. Granted, it’s all his money, so he can do with it what he wants. I just kind of feel ill if I think about it too much, heh.
Post # 14
every time I write a check or hand over my credit card.
Post # 15
I agree but it is worth it.
Post # 16
I would have felt awful because I’m very money conscious. My Darling Husband would have felt bad too. This is the biggest reason we chose to have a courthouse ceremony. It was the best decision we could have made. Initially, people tried to talk us into feeling like we “had to” have a big wedding. When it comes right down to it, you don’t “have to” do anything. Do what makes you happy.