(Closed) Do BM gifts have to be the same?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do they need to be the same?
    Yes : (4 votes)
    10 %
    No : (38 votes)
    90 %
  • Post # 3
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Laurenplusalex:  your poll is confusing.  your title question is “do BM gifts have to be the same”, the question in the post is “is this a breach of etiquette,” and the question on the poll is “is it ok.” I accidentally answered ‘no’ because I was answering the title and post questions, not ‘is it ok.’

    Post # 5
    14005 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    They definitely don’t have to be the same! It’s a great idea to try to cater their gifts to their interests. I’d just make sure that they seem equivalent in terms of how much you spent on both bridesmaids. It doesn’t matter how much you spend — just that you don’t want one feeling slighted.


    Post # 6
    8469 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My BMs got different gifts because they have such different styles, but I gave them similar items (both got gift cards, both got earrings, etc).

    Post # 7
    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I think it’s better when they’re different. It shows that you actually considered each girl’s personal taste and wants instead of buying something generic. Go for it!

    Post # 8
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Gemstone This exactly.  The gifts do not have to be the same.

    Post # 9
    8474 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I wanted all of my girls’ gifts to be the same.  That’s my personal preference.  I found things that ALL of them can use.

    Post # 10
    33 posts
    • Wedding: July 2011

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