(Closed) Do BMs need to give gifts? Does your gift reflect how much you spent to be there

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Fiance was just a groomsmen and we gave a shower gift big one and a wedding gift too.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I think it’s still appropriate to give a gift.

 

As always, I think it should be according to what you can afford. If I have to spend $700 to Bridesmaid or Best Man, then I probably won’t get a $100 kitchen gadget. It’s not because I’m bitter, but rather because I don’t have the moolah.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Do you expect your bridal party members to give you a gift for the wedding? No, I actually told them that I didn’t want them to get us gifts and that their “presence was our present” but they didn’t listen. 

As a bridesmaid, have you ever reduced your gift based on how much you have to spend to be in the wedding? Well this kind of depends on what we can afford. Both Darling Husband and I were in our friends wedding so we had twice the financial obligation (on top of me basically paying for the entire shower). We still gave them a generous gift but it may not have been as much as another wedding that I was in where I didn’t have to spend so much. 

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