Post # 1
So, I’ve seen bees talking about giving a thank you speech (not long) at their own reception, and while I’m not engaged, I always imagined that I would want to thank my friends and family for coming, being there for us, thank our parents, etc. Just something I always thought would be special.
Anyway, I have NEVER seen this at a wedding. I’ve been to maybe 5 in the past few years, most all large, traditional weddings. One was very lavish and the bride’s family planned/footed the whole thing. Either way, it just occured to me that I’ve never heard a bride and groom say anything to their parents (or at all) at their own wedding. I certainly don’t think they have to, I’m just curious if this is common or not.
Post # 3
It really depends on what you want. Some people do get up and make a short speech, others simply just have a receiving line and say thank you to their guests.
Personally, I’m only doing a receiving line. I suffer from anxiety and cannot get up in front of large groups of people so we’re not doing a speech.
Post # 4
I’ve seen the bride and groom make a speech at every wedding I’ve gone to, however most were paid for/hosted by the couple themselves.
Post # 5
We didn’t. I’ve been to 15 weddings since 2009, and the bride and groom never spoke at any of those, but maybe that’s not the norm in my region.
Post # 6
Wow! I think the bride and groom have spoken at every wedding I’ve ever been to, ever. I plan to – I think it’s the right thing to do! I hadn’t realized that could be a regional thing.
Post # 7
I think it is regional, I’d never been to a wedding where the bride/groom made a speech and never even thought of it until our DOC suggested it. We took like 60 seconds to thank everyone for coming and that’s about it!
Post # 8
I did. My family has gotten me through some really tough time (I was a teen mom) and really wanted to thank them for all of their support. It was quick-maybe 5 minutes-thanked everyone for sharing our day, my family, told my in laws how happy I am to be a part of their family, and thanked my husband for putting up with me. I have to say it is probably 50/50 with the weddings I have been to that the bride or groom have made a speech.
ETA; I just htought I should say-My dad gave a welcome speech too. It was about 2 minutes and was probably one of my favorite parts of the day. But that was it for speeches-we didn’t have anyone in the bridal party give a toast or anything. And we still went around and talked to everyone and thanked them then also.
Post # 9
I thought it was more common at the rehearsal dinner? I think if you want to do it you should 🙂
Post # 10
In contrast to some comments, I’ve actually never seen a bride/groom give a speech at their wedding, whether they have paid for it or not. We also don’t intend to speak. We plan to use the rehearsal dinner to say a few words.
Post # 11
I’ve always heard of thanking your parents at the rehearsal dinner. Most of the weddings I’ve been to, the bride and groom thanked their guests individually by walking from table to table during the night.
Post # 12
My parents paid for our wedding, but my husband and I still did a short thank you speech, and people loved it. We got lots of comments about how much they appreciated being acknowledged by the bride and groom, even though we had gone around to every table and spoken to every guest. And it gave my groom a chance to do something really cute- address my family (who doesn’t speak English) in Portuguese. It ade them feel so included.
Post # 13
I’ve not seen a bride-and-groom speech at a reception, but I have seen them say something at the rehearsal dinner. Fiance and I intend to say something at our Rehearsal Dinner, especially thanking my parents profusely for everything they’ve done for our wedding. We’ll also be presenting gifts to parents and bridal party, thanking each one personally for the irreplaceable roles they’ve played in our lives.
ETA: though, I think I’ll be so over-wrought with emotion on the day of my wedding, after a couple of cocktails I’ll be itching to get the microphone to genuinely gush about how happy I am that everyone has been there. So, I should warn our DJ to maybe not give me the microphone that night?
Post # 13
It’s so interesting that the response seems to be extremely varied. Perhaps it’s regional, who knows. All the weddings I have been to have been in major cities on the East Coast.
Post # 14
I’ve never been to a wedding where the bride and groom didn’t get up and say a thank-you speech. I never thought about who footed the bill or not when it came to the speech, either, as the bride and groom are still the ones planning the wedding. I think it’s a nice way to acknowledge your families and friends that helped make the day perfect.
Post # 15
At my sisters, I did the thank yous for the two families as the Maid/Matron of Honor. For my wedding, we will probably do the thank yous simply because we are paying for everything and it’s sort of a destination wedding for the majority of my family.
However, I’ve only seen “thank you” speeches, never more than that.